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Lynda Loveland: Baby book blues

Posted June 30, 2010

Lynda Loveland

I tend to carry a lot of monkeys on my back. I think women in general, do. That's how we're genetically engineered.

For instance, I still need to clean out my kids' closets, the linen closet and the junk cabinet in the kitchen. They're all on my to-do list. And it's a long one.

But there's one gorilla I've been carrying around for nearly seven years. It's called a baby book. Maybe you've heard of it. Heck, maybe you've even completed one! I've seen the first couple of pages but that's about it. Every time I get pregnant and I'm on maternity leave, I promise myself that I'm going to finish a baby book or at least bring it up to date.

My husband just laughs at me. It's become a joke! I do have a journal that I've been writing in, occasionally, but nothing organized. I feel horrible not doing it. I have so much anxiety about it I don't even know how to start. Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh!

Maybe I need a time out. Say, around dinner time. J

Lynda is the mom of three and co-host of Mix 101.5 WRAL-FM's Bill & Lynda in the Morning. Find her here every Thursday.


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  • greertimothy Jul 3, 2010

    Finicula may want to note that "after all" should be two words, not one.

  • Platinum Jul 2, 2010

    Reply to finicula,
    Perhaps you should keep your unkind comments to yourself. Lynda's expressing some very familiar feelings for those of us who juggle as best as we can and inevitably fall short (at least sometimes). It says more about you that you feel the need to rub it in when all she's doing is being candid and honest.

  • isolde36 Jul 2, 2010

    I think they're highly overrated. It's so much more important to take down time for yourself and spend quality interaction time with your children. That's what they'll remember. Toss all the doctor's reports, report cards, best artwork, etc. in a pretty box and go through it someday with them instead.

  • teacher56 Jul 2, 2010

    Linda, here is an idea that won't take much time or room and then you will have what you need to do that memory book when you do get the time. Get one of those medium size rubbermaid plastic storage totes for each child. Make a pretty large sticker with each child's name and put it on their tote. When you have pics done, put it in. When they go to school and bring home all sorts of stuff they made, put it in. Also their first haircut, report cards, award certificates, favorite baby toy they don't use any longer, whatever you want. Then in the future, when you sit down, you will have all this stuff to choose from. You can make a scrapbook, 3D display case or whatever for each child. What you don't choose for yourself, the kids get to keep to do with as they please! Don't feel rushed! This is a journey!

  • Citizen7265 Jul 2, 2010

    In the grand scheme of things, it is no big deal! Your children will much prefer the memories you make together. Spend the time with your kids and enjoy the moment. You can put a scrapbook together for each of them as they reach adulthood and no longer require so much of your time.

  • carriequinlan Jul 1, 2010

    try a baby blog.

  • StrollinMama Jul 1, 2010

    It might be a fun "moms night out" activity to have a Baby Book Night at a friends' house where we all work on our baby books- you've inspired me! And on another note- my mom gave me mine a few years ago and I was actually able to use it to prove I'd had certain vaccines 25+ years ago that I needed to go to grad school! Never anticipated that use! Now that I'm a mom I love reading over my mom's notes about my first year- hilarious!

  • Madeine46 Jul 1, 2010

    Second thoughts on the baby book thing; My own mother presented me with my baby book for my birthday when I was 35 years old. She had begun it when I was a baby (my brother was 3 years old when I was born) but lagged behind. She finished it just weeks before she gave it to me. Some of the things she wrote in it were so funny. It is something I will always treasure.

  • Canes Girl Forever Jul 1, 2010

    OMG! I feel the same way. Some people may think its stupid but I lose sleep over it!

  • running girl Jul 1, 2010

    Don't feel too depressed about it, you will get to it when you eventually can. It goes to show that you are a good mom, too busy being active with your kids than to spend time on it! You are creating active memories with them and that it what really counts. Work on it when they go to college :)