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Lynda Loveland: Love in the first grade?

Posted May 12, 2010

Lynda Loveland

Huh? Yeah, that was my first thought. But I'm seeing the first inklings of "like." My first grade daughter has been spending time after school playing with her friend, who happens to be a boy. He lives in our neighborhood. How convenient.

My daughter is a bit of a tomboy and doesn't have a girlie bone in her body. (Just like her mom.) She'd rather give up her Nintendo DS and her Wii AND her guinea pigs than wear a dress. Given that, she prefers to play with boys.

Lately, she's been having play dates with a boy from her class. He calls after school. They go to each other's house or to the pool. They've drawn pictures for each other. And the other day, out of the blue, she made him a mii on our Wii! Of course she won't confess to liking him.

He's a super nice kid with great manners. The kind of boy every mom and dad would love to see their daughter bring home. But in first grade???

OK, I'm exaggerating a bit. They haven't even come remotely close to anything even closely resembling something mushy. (Didya get that?) It's actually kind of sweet and innocent. They seem to really enjoy each other's company.

I don't know, maybe I had the same experience in first grade, but I don't remember. Things sure are different these days. What in the world will the days to come bring? I feel like I'm starting to enter a new phase of parenting. Not quite sure I'm ready.

Lynda is the mom of three and co-host of Mix 101.5 WRAL-FM's Bill & Lynda in the Morning. Find her here every Thursday.


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  • taurismo May 14, 2010

    My best friend and I met when we were four. We went to preschool together, and then nine years of school after that. He then moved away, but we kept in touch. We lost touch temporarily in our late twenties, but reconnected in our thirties. To this day, we still keep in contact with each other, and even though we live in two different staetes, hundreds of miles apart, we can laugh and reminisce about the 'old' (real old!) days. We are now in our fifties, and can actually remember back to when we were four. Now that is a real blessing!

  • am147914 May 13, 2010

    Lynda, I am 22 years old and surprisingly I remember my kindergarten crush. I was much similar to your daughter in the aspect of being a tomboy and playing with boys. We always had to sit together at lunch/play time and when nap time came around we had our mats near one another. Our families even did the phone call thing for us on the weekends! No matter what was going on we were stuck together like glue.

    I actually still talk to this guy and we have a bond like you wouldn't believe...even after 17 years! I hope your daughter will have this person in her life for a long time because it truly is a blessing :)!

  • 4.13 May 13, 2010

    Lynda, if you think first grade puppy love is hard on you, wait until the 8th grade Formal to close out middle school. There needs to be a tissues and hugs table in the corner of the gym! Parents only of course!

  • khoggard May 13, 2010

    My son, when in Kindergarten, received several phone calls from girls during the school year. When he was asked how they got our number, he said, "She asked for it so I gave it to her." The main one who called was doing so in secret by taking her moms cell phone. When mom found out, the calls stopped. One of the others called with moms permission because we parents would talk about it when we saw each other. He is in 2nd grade now & has not received any phone calls in a while but still likes to "flirt" with the girls all the time. We tell him that he has too many "girlfriends" & that makes him a little mad but I think he is enjoying his playmates. Just so he doesn't get too serious before he is 20!! lol

  • jont7465 May 13, 2010

    ABSOLUTELY PRECIOUS! You most likely had the same type of platonic friendships as well. Just wait until she is in fifth grade. LOL

  • momotwins May 12, 2010

    My Kindergartner son and a good "friend" from church got "married" last summer. Us parents laugh and joke about being in-laws. I thought it was just a phase that would fade as Fall and school started, but both parties still claim "loving" each other. Who knows in 20 years we may really be inlaws.