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Lynda Loveland: Sharing the bed

Posted April 7, 2010

Lynda Loveland

Sleep sometimes feels like a luxury when you’re a parent. It shouldn’t be, but it can be.

Working mornings, I usually don’t get enough sleep, so I try to protect it. I worked so hard, from the time my kids were born, to keep them in their own bed. If they had a bad dream, it was a different story.

It’s just hard to get good sleep when you have a small foot up your nose or someone sucking their thumb right next to your ear. Plus, kids always seem to sleep across the bed instead of down it. Now don’t get me wrong, I LOVE snuggling up close to my kids and smelling that kid scent. Love it. But I think a person’s physical and mental health depends on good sleep.

Lately though, I’ve been slipping. I’m not quite sure why. Maybe because I know I’m done having kids or maybe it’s because I see them growing up so quickly.

Whatever the reason, I’ve been sacrificing sleep to cuddle with the kids. The other night, I even went so far as to get one out of bed, already asleep, and bring her back to bed with me. I pulled her close and wrapped my arms around her. Her soft head of hair was right under my chin. She never woke up. Never even knew she was in bed with me until the morning.

The benefit, and the memory, was all mine.

Lynda is the mom of three and co-host of 101.5 WRAL-FM's Bill & Lynda in the Morning. Find her here on Go Ask Mom every Thursday.


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  • donnagcruz Apr 9, 2010

    The only way I could get sleep was with my child in my bed. He was happy, I was happy. Since I am a working mom, I didn't get to spend the time I wanted with my child during the day. Having my child sleep with me made up for the time I wasn't able to spend with him during the day. The snuggles and waking up with that sleeping angel beside me are memories that will be with me forever. Enjoy every precious moment. They grow too fast.

    I too read about other cultures where kids sleep with their parents and totally agree that it's healthy and natural. As Dr. William Sears touched on this in "The Baby Book." By being there for your child at night, you are teaching them that you are there for them at all times, not just during the day. I'm proud to be a 24-hour mom, not just a day mom. I would not trade those warm, snuggle memories for anything. You're a loving mom and your child is blessed to have you.

  • zamboniman Apr 8, 2010

    Take every moment that you can, even if it means sacrificing some sleep. Our daughter is in a group home, she was brain injured at birth. We bring her home every other Sunday for a home visit. We cherish those visits, as short as they are.

  • awheeless2 Apr 8, 2010

    I enjoy reading your blog post and listening to you on the raido. You must be a wonderful MOM

  • running girl Apr 8, 2010

    Very touching and brought a tear to my eye. Mother of 2, 5 and 3 year old boys. I actually read something recently that talked about how healthy it is for kids psychologically to sleep with their parents when they are young to feel connected. Lots of cultures do it. There will come the day when they want nothing to do with you so I agree.. while it lasts. so be it.

  • Mom2two Apr 8, 2010

    Lynda, why don't you just snuggle in THEIR bed with them? Leave them out of your bedroom, I say. I am ALL ABOUT a good night's sleep!

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  • jkca Apr 7, 2010

    We,(my spouse and I) share a bed with our 5 year old son. My son sleeps with me when my husband is working at night and then he sleeping with my husband when my husband is home! He slept fine by himself until he was around 3 and then his active imagination kicked in.....the monsters. I am too tired at night to fight with him and as with my 8 year old son, the day will soon come when he'll sleep alone.