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Do you help your kids with their homework?

Posted March 8, 2010

My daughter will be headed to kindergarten this fall. And when I asked her school's principal how much homework she'll have once she gets there, I was a little shocked when the answer was 20 minutes. A night.

Then he described exactly what that homework would be and most of it was a recommendation from the school that we read to her for at least 15 minutes a day. No problem there.

But I know that over the next few years, her book bag will begin to come home loaded with more and more worksheets (do they still have those?) and other assignments.

How hands on are you when it comes to homework? Do you help your kids finish their assignments? Do you just answer a few questions? Or do you leave it up to them? Are they getting too much or too little?

And if you're struggling with just how much help you should provide, check out the U.S. Department of Education's "Helping Your Child" series with booklets on topics such as how to help your children learn math, science and history.


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  • shall6 Mar 9, 2010

    Great tips!

  • mewubbau Mar 9, 2010

    Ok, it cut off my comment:-( Anyhow, I agree with having a quiet homework space with no distractions.

  • mewubbau Mar 9, 2010

    I have always been hands on with my daughter's homework. In K it was mainly going over sight words with her and reading with her, so I normally did sit down with her because it required me to. (most of elementary school was like that) And now that she is in middle school, teachers post homework on-line and I am able to look over what she is working on--sometimes I will do it myself if time permits and that way when and if she has questions I know what she is talking about and have already worked on it. Good review for me too:-) My daughter is one who does get easily overwhelmed and that is why I to sit down with her or be readily available for questions. But, one thing I have always been an advocate of is NOT giving her the answers, I will work through the steps with her and let her figure it out. Sometimes it not always easy and giving her the answer would be so much quicker, but then she wouldn't have learned anything. Anyway, I also agree with the person that said having a ho

  • abswitala Mar 9, 2010

    Homework is something that is very individual and you'll need to see how much your child can handle without frustration. Overload is a real and growing problem. I have one going into Kindergarten this fall as well as a child in upper elementary school. My child that is in school is frustrated to the point of tears with homework often and needs extra help inside the classroom. I have permission to modify her homework and I appreciate that. It is good idea to help your child start their homework (read over the instruction to clarify meaning) so they don't have to do it over again.

  • Mom2two Mar 9, 2010

    ...a similar job alongside her such as paying bills, perusing recipe books (a personal favorite!), cooking dinner, etc. Just please no TV or video! And a nice, early bedtime is SO important!

  • Mom2two Mar 9, 2010

    Bravo for you to think about this now, because it will set the stage for her academic career! The most important thing, I think, is to have a quite place that is the "homework" spot. Next, make sure she has the supplies she may need for homework: markers and crayons, pencils and a sharpener, tape, glue, big erasers(!), and lots of wide notebook paper and copy paper. If you don't already have them, scour 2nd hand stores with her to choose appropriate books that she might like to read. (Also, if you volunteer at your child's school for the bookfair, you can sign up for the awesome sales at Scholastic warehouse in Raleigh.

    Once you have a place and the supplies she needs, don't hover, but be nearby doing your own "thing." Homework is her "job" and if she needs assistance with the directions or something she doesn't understand, assist and then leave. Show her that you have confidence in her ability to do her "job." If that is too hands-off for you, you can do a similar "job" alon