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Help a Mom: Seeking ways to connect with other parents

Posted August 7, 2012

I received this email from a local mom who is desperate to find connections with other moms. Here's what she wrote:

I am wondering if anyone has any ideas on what I could do with my 2 1/2-year-old and my 9-month-old. My parents are elderly and can't handle them together. My husband can't handle them together either, but that is another story. But I would like to get out and meet other parents with kids around the same age in the Raleigh area. I am wore out all the time because there is never a break for me unless I am at work. PLEASE give me some ideas on what I could do with them. They can't stay in the house all day on the weekends.

I would love ALL ideas. She loves the outside, but she really needs to meet other kids and I really need to meet other mommy's for adult conversation. :) Thank you soooo much.

In an attempt to be helpful (putting her family issues aside with her parents and husband), I offered some suggestions. For kids that age, it doesn't take a lot to entertain them - a visit to a park or the library is perfect. And you can often find parents there looking for some adult conversation too.

"How old is your child," is my favorite "pick-up" line (so to speak ... because, to make myself perfectly clear, I am not picking them up) when I'm with my kids on the playground and am standing next to another mom pushing her own child on the swing.

I suggested she check out some of our local baby boutiques, including SmartMomma, SweetBottoms Baby Boutique and The Family Nest, which offer programs for moms and are another source for meeting moms. also is a great place to check for local mom groups.

And, since she mentioned that she worked, I assume her kids are in day care. I recommended she invite some of her kids' friends for a park playdate and strike up a friendship with their parents. That was a great source of friendship for me when my older daughter was young and in full-time care.

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  • JAT Aug 8, 2012

    And yes, I'd pay for the babysitter if she found one.

  • JAT Aug 8, 2012

    americaneel - LOL. She obviously needs a break, though. You'd think the grandparents could watch them once in a while to give them a break but the dad needs to really step up and quick acting like a baby himself (assuming her story is accurate and not tainted by her exhaustion). I bet there's a teenager in her neighborhood that would love $20 for a few hours while she and husband have a "date night".

  • mlwmorales Aug 8, 2012 They have activities/playdates for children and for mom during the day/weekends. I have meet some great people!!

  • JAT Aug 8, 2012

    Take them out to the flea market at the fairgrounds. It's get you out and lets them get some sunshine and fresh air in addition to be distracted by all the action. Just pick your times, like when the baby is more likely to sleep so that you can interact more with the older one. But you're going to have to get your husband onboard and involved. Even if you have to divide and conquer - you take one, he takes one, it's better than staying isolated.

    If you live in a neighborhood, go out walking each night and strike up conversations with parents you meet along the way; maybe you can get a regularly routine and walk with them.

    Don't get overwhelmed - a frazzled mom will not be any good for her kids. Dad has to help, even if it means he's on parent duty while you take some time for yourself.

    Good luck!