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Lynda Loveland: Generational paybacks

Posted May 30, 2012

Lynda Loveland

Do your parents ever tell you how much your children are just like you? And do they have a slight smirk on their face when they say it?

I call it “Generational Payback.” It’s where your children do the same thing to you that you did to your parents.

My dad tells me all the time that my 8-year-old daughter Campbell is just like me. Aside from being a tomboy, I apparently used to be very inquisitive. In fact, my dad said I never stopped asking questions. It was a constant barrage. Not unlike what I experienced at the Railhawks game with Campbell.

Twenty questions is nothing for her. It was more like 120! And it was about anything and everything. From the weather to the new stands being built at the WakeMed Soccer Park.

Here’s an example. “What are they doing over there? They’re building new stands. Why are they building them? So more people can come to the game. Why do they look like that? They’re not finished yet. Why aren’t they working on it now? Because there’s a game going on. When will they start working on it again? Probably tomorrow morning. When will it be ready? I don’t know.

(My head is starting to spin.)

How many people can sit there? I don’t know. Will the seats be like these here or those over there? I don’t know. Can we sit there the next time we come to a game? (Stick a fork in me, at this point I was done.) Not we, just you…I want to watch the game. I’m not taking any more questions. (Works for the politicians, thought it would work for me.)

I know it’s important to foster curiosity, but dang, everybody has a limit!

Are you experiencing a little “generational payback”?

Lynda is the mom of three and co-host of Mix 101.5 WRAL-FM's Bill & Lynda in the Morning. Find her here on Thursdays. Click here to like her on Facebook.


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  • asdfg May 31, 2012

    My daughter used to do the same thing. I started using it as a way to get her to think. When she would ask me a question I thought she probably could answer herself, instead of telling her the answer, I would ask her what she thought. It's led to some great discussions over the years.

  • jebar May 31, 2012

    It was all I could do from busting a gut laughing. My 13 year old son is on a question limit per subject for this exact reason. I love that he wants to know things but I can only take so much. What I also love is that I have a different limit on the number of questions he can ask (it all depends on how much I know about the subject) and I don't tell him the limit and this makes him think about the questions he asks and he makes sure all of them count.! and yes my mother loves seeing this because I was the exact some way.

  • lec02572 May 31, 2012

    Love it. I got the same thing when my children were growing up and now they are getting the "Generational Payback." I think it is so funny. However, when they come over I get a dose of the questions too, but I would not trade this time for nothing in the world. Its when they stop asking you questions that is more troubling, because that is when they think they are grown and know it all.

  • br549znc May 31, 2012

    To use an old saying.....The apple doesn't fall far from the tree.

  • Glass Half Full May 31, 2012

    So funny and so true! I think all kids go through a similar time of being inquisitive. You've got 3 to do it with and just last week you were talking about wanting a 4th. You'll look back on it later as a fond memory the same way your parents do with you.

  • ladybug68 May 31, 2012

    We refer to that as the "mother's curse". Mom kept telling you as a kid, one day you will have one just like you!! :-D

  • Eagleland May 31, 2012

    LOL!!! Cute read.

  • thewayitis May 31, 2012

    Yes, big time generational payback here. And it involves my oldest son, who is much like the daughter you describe. LOL, I occasionally tell him I hope he has a child who is just like him. And then he gets a little annoyed with me! He's twelve by the way, and still asking questions. They just keep getting harder and harder for me to answer. I guess I should just be glad that he still wants to talk to me!

  • grannybam07 May 30, 2012

    One of the greatest joys of a grandparent is to witness your precious grandchild drive your child crazy doing exactly what drove you crazy as a parent. But...when it is your grandchild, it doesn't bother you at all :) (One day you will experience this joy and smile :)

  • Love my boys May 30, 2012

    I experience this every time I share an experience about one of my children with my parents. They take great pride in reminding me how I did something very similar.