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Training for Baby: Baby name game

Posted May 15, 2012

Growing up, I remember picking out baby names for my future children. I think a lot of girls do the same thing. (Remember that episode of “Sex and the City” when Charlotte’s secret baby name got stolen by a pregnant friend?)

It seemed so easy back then to select a name that I liked. Now that I am pregnant, it is a completely different ballgame.

Before we knew if it was a boy or girl, my husband and I had a discussion about baby names. We shared the ones we liked, only to discover that we had very different ideas about what to name this baby.

You don’t realize how difficult it is to come up with a name, until you start tossing a few out there. My husband kept suggesting names that I had a negative connection to – ex-boyfriends, school bullies, mean girls who I grew up with, etc.

A name is no longer just a name when you are trying to pick one for your baby. Every person you ever knew with that name comes racing back into your mind, at least it did for me.

We turned to the Internet searching for baby name websites. A few sites allowed you to sort through the highest rated names. We were excited until we saw “five-star” rated names like Huck and Yogi. Those just weren’t for us!

I really liked the name Peyton, but my husband vetoed it. As a sports writer, he spent at least a month tracking Peyton Manning’s every move when he was in Durham earlier this year. He didn’t want to have to write the name Peyton ever again, and I kind of don’t blame him!

When we found out it was a boy, my husband quickly got out his sports media guides – those were his versions of baby naming books. After talking him out of naming our child Hugs (after WVU basketball coach Bob Huggins) or Da’Sean (after WVU basketball star Da’Sean Butler), we were able to put together a reasonable list of names we both agreed on.

We have since cut that list down and, I think, settled on a name. I have started calling the little guy by it just to see if he likes it. He kicks sometimes, other times he doesn’t seem to care.

We are giving it some time to see if it sticks, before we officially broadcast it to the world.

Moms, how hard was it picking a name for your baby?

Kathy is editor of WRAL.com's Out & About section. Learn more about Kathy on her website. Last year, here on Go Ask Mom, Kathy chronicled her efforts to lose weight before she and her husband started a family. Now, due with her first baby this fall, she's writing about her pregnancy. Find her here on Wednesdays twice a month on Go Ask Mom.

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  • smokeybear May 18, 2012

    why is it a different ballgame in picking out names. Grow up, just pick a name for pete's sake. some of you women make a mountain out of a mole hill. Are you trying to impress someone. Geeze

  • murdock May 17, 2012

    It took us awhile for our babies' names. For our first, we had to pick a name we both liked and ditto for the second. I, too, vetoed a lot of names because of people I knew as a child. And the same went for my hubby. We picked names that were not common today but still had meaning. We named both our boys' middle name the same since it has been passed down to even my hubby. And we did not pick any names that could go for either a boy or girl - like Peyton, Sydney, Jordan, Hunter, etc. Our names fit our kiddos too!

  • kcastleberry May 17, 2012

    We finally took a baby name book and went page by page highlighting the names we agreed on. Then went back through the book and did it again with another color of highlighter. Did this over several weeks until we agreed on one. One piece of advice I do have is ....keep the name a secret between just you two. Your parents, siblings, aunts, uncles, best friends and all don't mind giving their opinion on baby names IF you tell them ahead of time. (we changed our minds several times because of negative comments while I was still pregnant) However, we learned that if you keep it a secret until the baby is born and say meet "(insert name here)" EVERYONE will at least act like it's the best name they ever heard. Really, that's the truth. We have 3 pregnancies under our belts as proof.

  • jpittard2 May 17, 2012

    Since our son would be the first adopted child in my husband's family, we wanted our son to have ties to his family. His initials are the same as his paternal grandfather's and his name begins with a "G" just like his dad's and big brother's names. Twenty one years ago today, he entered our lives and our hearts. Take your time finding the name. There may be a family story that comes out of it!

  • babbleon May 16, 2012

    hhahahahaha! We spent 4 years talking over baby names. My husband didn't want anything too normal (like Adam or Robert) or too strange (which included Ian. I mean - IAN?!?!). So we spent 3.5 years just talking it over, by which time I was 3mo pregnant.

    At that point, I had the happy thought to start with the initials ASH. I knew the S I wanted, so I told my husband he could pick the A. To make it easier and get a name that was neither too weird nor too normal, I went to the Social Security website and looked at the second 10 most popular boy's names.

    I vetoed one from bad associations and he vetoed one, leaving him with two options. This was about 3mo before I was due.

    The day AFTER our son was born, when they came in with the certificate, my husband looked at me and said, 'I can't pick, because I can't tell which one YOU like more.'

    I couldn't even be mad at him...

    ps: Aiden

  • JAT May 16, 2012

    We decided on names for a boy and a girl the night I found out I was expecting and stuck with that name the whole time. Never waivered! It was as easy as pie!

  • nanasmom1002 May 16, 2012

    My Husband and I could NOT agree on any baby girl names we liked. We spent months rejecting each other's ideas for names. One day while visiting My brother and sister in law I jokingly asked our 5 year old niece what we should name the baby, and she very quickly told us a name and immediatly my husband and I fell in love with it. For her middle name we each had a name we wanted and we finally decided to draw for it. We put both names in a hat and we drew one out.

  • justbcauz May 16, 2012

    Don't laugh, but I actually had a "rules" about our children's names. The first name needed to be 7 letters because my name and my husband's name are both 7 letters. There had to be an easy/logical nickname from their names because my name has no appropriate nickname which can prove embarrassing growing up. And, I wanted our children to have at least one family name (first or middle). We have two girls and they both have names I adore. And, both times, we changed our minds days before they arrived. I think names are really important and the best advice I can offer if to announce the full name out loud as if you child is graduating from high school or college. If it sounds strange or it's hard to say, find something else.

  • Killian May 16, 2012

    We had some of the worst fights naming our kids. To this day, I regret just giving in because I'm not fond of any of their names. Two of my kids are legally changing them, and I'm all for it. =)

  • kellypratz May 16, 2012

    My husband vetoed the name Morgan when our 1st daughter was born, I love that name. Well we both decided on Sydney. Well when our 2nd daughter was born I tried again with Morgan and to no avail we decided on Jordan. Now that I look at my girls the names we picked out suit them. Still love the name Morgan.

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