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Help a Mom: Searching for age appropriate clothes for overweight tween

Posted May 8, 2012

I received this email from a woman, who wants to buy an outfit for a girl she knows from church, but isn't sure where to look.

Here's what she wrote:

I have a young female friend at church who is 12, very overweight, with very large breasts. This has occurred over about a 10 to 12 month period, so I know most of it is puberty related. The problem I see is that she is having to dress in very matronly-looking outfits and it just breaks my heart. I would like to purchase a nice outfit for her, that will fit her body, but be attractive and more in keeping with her seventh grade peers. Does anyone have any suggestions?

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  • myiesha1 May 10, 2012

    I was a plus size teen and often had trouble finding age appropriate clothing. Lane bryant was too old and Torrid was too expensive.
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  • mary20 May 10, 2012

    Try Forever 21 or H&M (at Crabtree), both have plus sizes. Also a slightly boxy silhouette on top and figure hugging bottom is youthful and flattering. Try layering a neon tank under an off-the-shoulder boxy shirt, add "skinny" jeans or a narrow skirt. Search the internet for plus size style blogs. I think even Kohl's may have something. Shoes are where it's at for plus size. And I can't forget to mention a good bra. Bigger bras are not cheap, but extremely important for making clothes look better.

  • ECUGrl2015 May 9, 2012

    Maurices clothing is a good play to try also. There is one in Clayton and Goldsboro and somewhere in Raleigh just not sure where exactly. I'm not overweight but I am busty I have bought lace cami inserts with you clip onto your bra to get extra coverage. I use thoes for church. They are classy and pretty and I get a lot of good comments.,r:2,s:0,i:82&tx=36&ty=56

  • trishrip May 9, 2012

    Try it is Lane Bryant's junior division with sizes from 5-27. My 12 year old was a little on the chubby size as well, she really loves the pheasant style blouses and capris

  • NiceNSmooth May 9, 2012

    Please try Avenue in Cary they have a great stylish selection at reasonable prices. Also, the tried and true is Lane Bryant - a little more expensive but if you sign up online you get great coupons and combinded with the sales are not too bad.

    I just want to say thank you in taking an interest in this girl and please please please stress that she is a beautiful person no matter the size. Building self esteem and confidence at this age is so important for a plus size girl.

  • hldrtn May 9, 2012

    I have a 13 yr old daughter that has about the same problem. We have gotten some really cute dresses from the Dollar General, just last weekend. The only thing i had to do was put a really cute button on the ft to cover up her top half a little. i wish u the best of luck, i know it is really hard.

  • Bklyn2Raleigh May 9, 2012

    Last summer, I had my 13 year old niece with me. We had trouble finding tops that were not to "clingy". I had great luck at JC Penny in the Juniors & Wones section. A lot of thesoe peasent type tops that didn't hug her body so tight...and the designs weren't old granny looking. They were pretty decent prices too.

  • lalaloo May 9, 2012

    Alloy online goes up to an XXXL and Torrid online also has trendy plus sizes.

  • shall6 May 9, 2012

    And another:

    I had a child that by the time she was 12 she was larger on top and bottom. It was very difficult for her in so many ways. And very difficult for me trying to find clothes to fit! So what I did was I would start getting shirts that are made of a rayon material or a polyester. These amterials not only are great for not wrinkling but also great because you can buy the larger size to fit on her and it kinda clings, not in a bad way, to her body for a fit that is nice. It won't sag like other shirts would do to the larger top. And now the style is in to where belts around the shirts. So if a shirt is purchased to fit the top and bigger in the waist then purchase a cool belt to go with it. I hope this helps.


  • shall6 May 9, 2012

    From my inbox:

    JCPenney has a good selection of 1/2 size Clothing for Girls. Justice for Girls carries some 1/2 sizes and regular sizes through 20.