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Lynda Loveland: The princess and soccer

Posted March 21, 2012

Lynda Loveland

It took a couple of years, but we finally convinced my five-year-old to take up a team sport.

She’s already in ballet, but we really wanted her to try a team sport. I think kids can learn some important things from being on a team. If she doesn’t like it at the end of the season, she can be done with it.

Carys is a girly girl through and through. I had a feeling we would run into our first problem with the uniform. Basically it’s not a dress, so that’s the problem. If only they made soccer jerseys that were extra long, fitted through the waist and had some ruffles at the bottom.

Carys was less than thrilled with the shorts so we went the skort route. She completed her outfit with hot pink socks and black shoes with a pink Nike stripe.

She seemed ready to go except when it came time to leave for the game, she said, “I don’t know if I want to play because I don’t want to get tired.” Say what?? I told her no way. She was not going to let her teammates down.

I couldn’t wait to see her play. I was curious to see if she would be dainty or if this competitive instinct would come out of nowhere and take over when she hit the field.

It didn’t take long to show itself. She gets in the game, runs toward the ball, looks up, sees me and with a big smile on her face gives me a huge wave. She finishes by blowing me a kiss and skipping off to join the swarm.

That’s my girl.

Lynda is the mom of three and co-host of Mix 101.5 WRAL-FM's Bill & Lynda in the Morning. Find her here on Thursdays. If you want to follow Lynda on Facebook, follow this link and click like.


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  • Killian Mar 22, 2012

    Not Now - I see what you're saying, but I think what Lynda was trying to teach Carys was that she needs to follow through with a commitment. If she agreed to play on the team, then she needs to complete her obligation. Now, if she chooses not to go back after this season, that's fine. But allowing her to quit before she had even tried it? I don't think that's the answer either.

    We did a trial class of taekwondo with my oldest when she was 4, thinking she might like it. She hated it and we said, No problem" and didn't go back. 5 years later, she asked to try it again, loved it, and went on to get her black belt, and qualified multiple times for Nationals.

    I think it's important to expose your kids to various activities to allow them to experience different things. Otherwise, they don't make informed choices. "I hate soccer" wouldn't really have been true if she hadn't actually tried it.

  • country4ever Mar 22, 2012

    Can you guys replace "go ask mom" with something that isnt completely pointless? TeenDad2electricboogaloo

    Uhhh - you don't have to read it, now do you?

  • Not Now Mar 22, 2012

    "Teams" come in more shapes than just sports. I'm glad your daughter was able to come to terms with being on a sports team, but would you have forced her to continue to play, in an effort to "teach her something?" I have never, ever been a member of any sports team, and yet, I am a happy, well-adjusted adult who works well with a group/team. I am a leader and one that can be led. Choir, orchestra, or band may have suited her tastes better.

  • schissl2 Mar 22, 2012

    Ah Lynda, my daughter was the same kid. She is now a beautiful 16 year old, she plans on three soccer teams, a challenge team in the fall, an all boys rec team in the spring, and she IS the only girl on that co-ed team, and her award winning high school soccer team. We are true 'soccer' parents in this family but we love it! Best of luck with your little sweetie.