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Amanda Lamb: Above all, be kind

Posted December 18, 2011

My youngest daughter came to me with a difficult question the other day: “Mommy, why are some people not nice?”

I paused for a moment, trying to come up with an answer that she would understand. But before I could answer, she followed up with a statement.

“I always try to be kind to everyone,” she said. I pulled her in for a hug, kissing the top of her head. She is kind and sets a great example for the rest of our family. The conversation then turned to one of the most difficult subjects I think parents have to tackle in today’s world — bullying.

“Mommy, have you ever been bullied?” She asked.

I tried to take myself back in time and remember a specific incident. I’m sure I had. Everyone has been bullied at some point in their lives. But I wanted a clear example that she could really relate to.

I told her about the time in second grade when I had saved up my milk money from lunch for an entire week so that I could buy a treat during our monthly movie presentation in the school cafeteria. As I was walking gingerly down the crowded stairway with a palm full of dimes, one of the older boys jostled me and sent the dimes sprawling across the stairwell in every direction. As I got down to retrieve them, not only did no one help me, but the kids walked on my hands and knocked me down to the ground. The other kids also swiped most of my dimes. Finally, a teacher saw what was going on and helped me up.

“How man dimes did you lose?” My daughter asked wide-eyed after I was done with my story.

“I don’t know, baby, about forty cents maybe. It was a long time ago,” I replied.

The next morning as I was washing dishes at the sink I felt a little tug on my shirt. My daughter handed me a small sealed envelope and then skipped away. I opened it to find four dimes inside. My heart swelled and I could feel tears in the corners of my eyes.

Folks, it doesn’t get much better than this…

Amanda is the mom of two, a reporter for WRAL-TV and the author of several books including two on motherhood. Find her here on Mondays.


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  • caniac315 Dec 20, 2011 got me. I teared up there at the end.

  • Killian Dec 19, 2011

    Very sweet. What a good kid!

  • cjnall Dec 19, 2011

    Thank you for sharing your life with us. Please hug your daughter for me for being such a precious and generous spirit.

  • islandballmom Dec 19, 2011

    This is great. I too, when reading the last paragraph swelled up with tears. Your daughter has such a precious gift. Those melt in your heart moments are so special. I enjoy reading your blog and hope you and your family have a Merry Christmas.

  • Glass Half Full Dec 19, 2011

    What a good job you've done raising a precious daughter! Thanks for sharing!

  • Twittyfan Dec 19, 2011

    That is so sweet.. I have always taught my child to be respectful regardless if they didn't have the nicest clothes and the list goes on and on.. She is in 7th grade and I still get great reports on how she is the first to help the new kid or helps the kid with disabilities. Teaching respect starts at home. The ones that bully do not have the attention they need that is why they pick on other kids.. We have dealt with the bully in the past. We can only hope our children can turn other kids around. Great job Amanda...

  • Iwasthinkin Dec 19, 2011

    This child is destined for Great Things. I pray her spirit is contagious. Kudos to you, Amanda for molding your girls to be so selfless...

  • NCishome Dec 19, 2011

    I did not wear designer clothes or had the best of everything. I was called names just for being different. I was not white or black. (no disrespect). I was punished by teachers who did not see the name calling. I started telling my Mom that I was sick. Finally she realized that there was a problem and addressed the teacher, who finally apologized.
    What did I learn from those days...make sure you tell someone. Parents talk to your kids listen to what they are saying. I also became friends who also were being bullied for being differnet. One was adopted, one wore glasses, one had beautiful red hair another was a daughter of a farm worker.

  • missparrothead Dec 19, 2011

    How absolutely sweet. Don't you just love those "melt your heart" moments with your children??? :))

  • howdiditgettothis Dec 19, 2011

    I wonder if your daughter has been bullied? Maybe you should ask her....

    My second grader (7 years old) was verbally and relationally bullied by a new neighbor, who was also her classmate, last year for the better part of the school year. "You can't sit with us, or play with us, or I'm not your friend, You're a loser" were some of the things repeatedly said to her. When I spoke with the teacher, she minimized the issues, even blaming my child at one point. I spoke to the mother of the girl, who told me that "girls will be girls."

    Bottom line, you have to be your child's advocate. The girl may be a neighbor, but she is not allowed to play with our daughter now. I insisted they be put in separate classes this year, and spoke with her current teacher about the last year.

    Things have been better, but I will continue to be vigilant on her behalf, and encourage her to talk to us about issues.