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Lynda Loveland: Countdown to kindergarten

Posted November 30, 2011

Lynda Loveland

Two down, one to go.

This is the week that parents of rising kindergarteners begin registering them for school. My oldest daughter is in third grade. My son is in first. And next year, my baby heads off to pre-first grade. I don’t know how I feel about this.

My husband and I have been thinking for the last couple of years, "$$$$$$, oh the extra money we’ll have when we have no kids in daycare!" But now it’s getting closer and I’m getting cold feet. Not like I have a choice….

My four-year-old, Carys, is a clinger. She hangs on to me like a dryer sheet hangs on to a fuzzy towel just pulled from the dryer. This child wants to be carried everywhere. She wants to sit on my lap the second I sit down. And she wants to sit next to me every single dinner, which doesn’t sit well with the other two.

You might think that makes me feel sorta smothered. But it doesn’t. I had my kids pretty close together. For about six years, I was either pregnant or nursing. I never really got to fully enjoy my first two. I hate that. Maybe that’s why I’m loving the attention from my baby.

She’s getting so big that when I hold her, she practically envelops me. She wraps her arms and legs around me, buries her face in my neck and fills me full of love and goodness. I can’t get enough of it.

Do they make Baby Bjorns for 43 pound 4 year olds?

Lynda is the mom of three and co-host of Mix 101.5 WRAL-FM's Bill & Lynda in the Morning. Find her here on Thursdays.

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  • katizs Dec 1, 2011

    I feel your pain Lynda - my youngest of 3 started K-5 this school year. She also is still a clinger, still loves to cuddle and wants mom to do and be with her. Enjoy this next year, for even this next step she will change as she goes to school. Just make sure that the morning of the 1st day you take lots and lots of tissues with you and still hug and cuddle when she comes home as long as she wants - for soon she will be like my oldest (13) and it wont be as cool to cuddle - she wil still hug and talk to me, but not time to cuddle -

    Enjoy each day, stage and moment with all 3 of them - I haven't been able to find a slow down or stop button for kids yet

  • boggy1 Dec 1, 2011

    "Not like I have a choice…. What a silly choice of words. There are plenty of options. Parents are just so brain-washed into thinking that they are forced into sending their children off to government schools."
    maadkowz

    maadkowz,you missed the point. It's not about Lynda making a choice about which school (government or otherwise) to send her child to. It's about her child moving on to the next phase of her life and not being able to change that fact.

  • DWH4sure Dec 1, 2011

    "What a silly choice of words. There are plenty of options. Parents are just so brain-washed into thinking that they are forced into sending their children off to government schools." maadkowz

    For working parents, there are not a lot of choices. If I had the option of not working maybe I would feel like you do, but I don't have that option unless I want my family to live in a shelter. I don't appreciate the tone of your comment; it sounds like you are disapproving of those who send their kids to "government" schools. I don't disapprove of those who choose to homeschool - if that's what's best for your child, more power to you, but don't you dare look down on me because I send my child to public school. My daughter is thriving, enjoying school and her friends, so I feel like I'm making the right choice.

  • mrs.csm Dec 1, 2011

    My youngest just turned nine. She is just as clingy! She still wants to be carried (although I can't), still likes to cuddle and snuggle. And I will continue to enjoy it for as long as possible, because one day...she won't....

  • Twittyfan Dec 1, 2011

    You will soon see a little grown pants because my daughter was connected to my hip and then there was kindergarten. lol It is amazing what they learn in kindergarten compared to what we did back in the day. They learn to become very independent and boy did that kill me but she still had that love for me but it was mom I can do it by myself. No more walking to class with her because she was a big girl. It is great to see your child become independent but it is sad too and it just gets worse as they get older.. Kids just grow up way too fast...

  • NCishome Dec 1, 2011

    My Mom was recently in the hospital and on one of my visits, I just felt the need to be beside her, so I laid down and snuggled with her as we watched TV.
    Let me just say that her nurses were shocked to see me there lol. Mom just told them she has always dones this since she was little.

  • j-lo93 Dec 1, 2011

    I totally understand your feelings! My two sons are in seventh grade and first grade. My daughter is three, and is attached to my hip as well. I love it, because I know how fast they grow. I didn't think I had a choice when my son started kindergarten last year- until after 3 weeks when he wasn't thriving. I made the choice to homeschool him, and what a wonderful choice it was! I am an elementary certified teacher, taking time off to raise my children. Now I get to practice my trade with the most precious student of all.

  • piratejosh76 Dec 1, 2011

    Not like I have a choice….

    What a silly choice of words. There are plenty of options. Parents are just so brain-washed into thinking that they are forced into sending their children off to government schools.

  • dansted Nov 30, 2011

    My youngest is just like that. My youngest is now 12 and still does all the things you mentioned. Sometimes her love and attention gets me through. I don't think your daughter is going to change any time soon. That is her personality. Enjoy it. Donna