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Lynda Loveland: Calm after the storm

Posted November 16, 2011

Lynda Loveland

I want to thank everyone for their support on my blog last week. I was a bit worried about posting it. I thought I would be bashed for being a horrible mom. It felt good to know I wasn’t alone.

I’m happy to say this week has been MUCH better. Around dinner time yesterday, normally chaotic, I caught myself thinking, “Wow, I feel calm and everything seems to be running smoothly!" And I feel like I’ve hit another benchmark with the kids.

Along the way to pick up my daughter from daycare, I stopped at the neighbors house to tell my son where I was going. I then told my daughter as I passed her cruising on her bike with her friends.

I smiled to myself as I drove away, thinking my kids are finally at that point where they can go play down the street with their friends without my constant supervision. I felt like I suddenly got a little freedom too!

But of course we moms can never be completely satisfied. Because that thought of freedom was quickly replaced by, oh no, they’re going to be grown up by next week and I’m going to miss it!

Good grief, can I not have my cake and eat it too? But I gotta tell ya, having a quiet house while I’m making dinner …. is pure bliss!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Lynda is the mom of three and co-host of Mix 101.5 WRAL-FM's Bill & Lynda in the Morning. Find her here on Thursdays.

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  • teri4 Nov 17, 2011

    I have three children, if "children" is the right word, let's say young adults. At ages 23, 20 and 17, they are pretty much out and about in the world, working, in college, high school social life and sports, etc. The one huge thing that I miss about them all being in the house when they were younger is the CHAOS!!! I love the chaos when they all come home, my 17 year old is in heaven when they are all there together. They laugh at me when I cry, but chaos makes me cry happy tears now.

  • katizs Nov 17, 2011

    I have to agree with you Lynda on this one - I do miss the fun of having small kids, but there is a nice calm when they are able to find that freedom or ability to do things on their own. I am a single mom of a 13, 10 & 6 yr olds - My mornings are so much more peaceful when they are able to take care of themselves as I get ready and then at nights it is also nice to know I can lay down from a headache for a few moments and not worry about closing my eyes for 10 mins.

  • missparrothead Nov 17, 2011

    aaahh....the yings and yangs of parenthood. "If we wouldn't laugh, we would all go insane"......

  • kellypratz Nov 17, 2011

    it's all about being a MOM!! Like you said, enjoy it before their all grown up and out of the house.

  • ladybug68 Nov 17, 2011

    you are fine,,if the worse thing you ever do is spray your child with water, you win!! and to terri8--my husband did that one night when our kids were young. It went from the kitchen to the yard (thank heavens. Our kids still laugh about it.

  • terri8 Nov 16, 2011

    People always tell me how amazed they are at my patience (I have 4 kids, 3 dogs and 2 cats. Oh yeah, and 1 husband :) So I think having a healthy way to let off steam is perfectly okay. My kids still talk about the food fight I started one night when I was on the edge. Who knows what started it, but the food fight sure finished it!!