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Lynda Loveland: Losing my cool

Posted November 9, 2011

Lynda Loveland

As a mom of three young children, I feel like I’m always on the brink of losing my cool. But just when that last straw is about to fall into place, something happens to lighten the load … most of the time.

That was not the case recently. The evening was turning into the perfect storm. It started with helping my son do his homework. I’m trying to help him understand a very simple concept that he just refused to grasp. I tried explaining it about 100 different ways and he just wasn’t having any of it! I finally pushed back from the table, squeezed my head with my hands and took several deep breaths. I was nearing the brink. But I fought it, and won, for the time being. And eventually my son got it, I think.

I headed into the kitchen to start dinner, about an hour behind schedule. Carys came in and began her usual repetitive, “What’s for dinner?” That child will ask me at least half a dozen times. I think she keeps expecting a different answer. After the 348th time, I lost it and yelled at her. I walked outside and I’m still yelling to myself! “Why does she keep asking me? She’s not going to eat it anyway!” I don’t know why I was still yelling. I guess I just had to vent. I walked back in and apologized. I knew I’d lost control.

Dinner’s finally about ready. I’m pulling some stuff out of the oven as the dogs are running through the kitchen playing and wreaking havoc. It’s always chaotic. I have to keep the pup off the older dog so she doesn’t hurt her back even more. I can barely get the oven door open because of their playing. I don’t need a meat thermometer to tell me my temperature is rising. I grab the water bottle and squirt Bindi to get off Halee. It works.

At that moment, my son comes in, begging to go down the street to play soccer. I tell him no, dinner’s ready. He proceeds to melt down in a begging, half crying, half yelling, mess.

Game over. Meat thermometer blows. I feel the water bottle in my hand and on impulse, I squirt my son. It works! He’s absolutely stunned! I’m stunned!

Then my husband walks in from work. He takes one look around and says, “no one else talk to mommy the rest of the night.” He’s a good man.

Lynda is the mom of three and co-host of Mix 101.5 WRAL-FM's Bill & Lynda in the Morning. Find her here on Thursdays.


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  • mbsheisey2 Nov 11, 2011

    I still remember the story with your son saying *dommit* and I still smile!

  • m24s Nov 11, 2011

    made me laugh out loud!!

  • jkwit Nov 11, 2011

    Reminds me of the time I made a special dessert for the school my son was going to. Thank goodness I planned ahead and made it the night before. About one hour before the dessert is due, my son insist on helping me get it out of the refrigerator. You guessed it, before I could say "wait", the dessert was in my son's hands. . . . . and then on the floor. What do you say? Inside my head I was screaming but on the outside I kept my cool. I make an announcement to my son and his siblings, "time to go, we need to make a stop at the grocery store!"

  • Killian Nov 10, 2011

    This was hilarious. Well done! Don't stress "losing it." We all do it sometimes!

  • mcorson2 Nov 10, 2011

    I have a new water bottle!!! My 5 yr. old is in for it!!!! I lost my cool this morning!!!!

  • sykesmelissa99 Nov 10, 2011

    Thank you so much for sharing your story. It is always good to hear from other moms, and to know that we all have our meltdown moments.

  • aartbug Nov 10, 2011

    I might just have to try the water bottle! As a mom of 5 ages 10,8,7,6 and about to be 3 I have more than some of those meltdown moments. Thank God for the men in our lives to help us! Wouldn't trade a min of it!

  • lec0257 Nov 10, 2011

    Welcome to my world. My wife and I are in the process of planning our youngest childs wedding in July. That was our lives with three children more than a few years ago. It does get better, but then there are grand kids, we have three now. The good thing about grand kids is that you can spoil them and send them home wired. Revenge is mine.

  • mom25boys Nov 10, 2011

    Love it!! I can totally relate to the chaotic household with you, lol! I have 5 boys at the ages of 11yrs, 8yrs, 7yrs, 5yrs, and 3yrs. Never a dull moment for me and there have been a few times I couldn't hold it together anymore.:) Happens to the best of us at sometime, but I am sure you are like me and wouldn't change anything. I count my blessings everyday for my husband, healthy boys, and chaotic life. :)