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Lynda Loveland: Tables turned

Posted October 12, 2011

Lynda Loveland

This parenting thing is a work in progress. There’s a big ole learning curve to get through and it just gets curvier as your kids get older.

I’m always experimenting with different tactics to see what works. I’m a big fan of choices. Do you want to wear this or that? Do you want to clean up your mess or go to your room? That kind of thing. It’s worked pretty well, so far. It seems to help avoid arguments and meltdowns. I don’t care for either.

But now, my younger daughter, the four-year-old, is using MY technique for evil.

My mom took her to the store the other day. Carys wanted to go down the toy aisle, of course. She wanted a Barbi,e but my mom said no, you don’t play with all the ones you have. Carys wanted doll clothes. Mom said no, you leave them lying around on the floor. Then it got interesting. According to my mom, Carys said, “Oma, you have two choices. You can either buy me a Barbie or buy me doll clothes.”

What???????? Oh she’s good all right. So what do you think Oma did? She did the only thing a grandmother can do. She opted for the Fashionista Barbie.

Lord help me…

You got one like that?

And for the record, I do not buy my kids toys when we go to the store. Really.

Lynda is the mom of three and co-host of Mix 101.5 WRAL-FM's Bill and Lynda in the Morning. Find her here on Thursdays.

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  • juliehoneycutt Oct 14, 2011

    That's too funny! My four-year-old has done the same thing to me. My answer - "Um, no." And we rolled on. Grandma, on the other hand, would probably have bought him something. :-)

  • kittiboo Oct 13, 2011

    When in the throes of potty training, we would let our daughter go to the "treasure box" (read: box full of cheap stuff we would otherwise throw away) if she stayed dry. Now that she is beyond accidents, she STILL sometimes will come out of the bathroom and announce: I'm dry! I get to go to the treasure box! Ummm, no, not anymore, kiddo. Just yesterday she comes out and says: I only peed a LITTLE bit in my undies. Can I go to the treasure box? WTH?

  • grammie27 Oct 13, 2011

    Oh no!!!!!!!! THIS grandma would have replied "oh, there's another choice! That choice is 'I don't buy you a doll OR doll clothes!' It's time to go home."

  • Twittyfan Oct 13, 2011

    This is too funny..

  • murdock Oct 13, 2011

    4 years old are always thinking. When my son misbehaved, I told him that #1 - I'll take away a toy and #2 - he won't be able to walk his kids shows. His comment - what's #3? Then #4, etc. I think we got up to #12 the other day when I could not think of any more consequences.

    And our rule is "if you sit in the cart and be good, we'll look at the toy aisle. If not, no toy aisle and he'll get punished." So I have a great co-shopper with me most of the time.

    Now with Grandma... that's a different story - he came home with two pairs of shoes, some rainbow goldfish snack, AND a toy the other day....

  • sherri4 Oct 13, 2011

    Having a smart and perceptive 4 yr old is a reall challenge! I know, we have one too. I laughed out loud when I read this.

  • resmith1114 Oct 12, 2011

    This put the biggest smile on my face. Thanks for sharing such a cute story! So glad our little one hasn't done this yet!

  • Love my boys Oct 12, 2011

    We have a similar situation. My boys think that good behavior at school and while grocery shopping warrant a treat of some kind. Most times, I indulge them and allow them to take their pick of candy but my middle one always wants a new toy car. He hardly plays with the 490 cars he currently has but he can spot a new design from 3 aisles over. Grandma, Nana and Pa always indulge him so I'll let them spoil him.