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Training for Baby: How thin is too thin?

Posted September 27, 2011

On this journey to drop a few pounds, I have gotten into a pattern of working hard, eating healthier and seeing the scale go down.

I am in such a groove that I had to actually talk to my new trainer about not losing anymore.

I’ve finally hit my 35 pound goal! After telling my mother the good news, she replied with a resounding “Don’t lose any more weight!”

She said she is afraid that I am going to become “too skinny” and not be healthy. She said that I am small enough.

The problem with losing weight is that you really can’t see your weight loss as much as others can. I still see the size 10 staring at me in the mirror everyday.

There is an addictive element to watching the scale go down, so I guess she is afraid I will just keep going. In her defense, every mini-goal I set for myself was followed by “another 5 pounds to go!”

I don’t want to get so skinny that my head looks too big – like a bobblehead.

So how skinny is too skinny?

  •  If I can see your bones protruding from your body, you are too skinny.
  • If you are an adult who can shop at Gap Kids for your clothes, you are probably too skinny or just very, very petite.
  • If a size 0 is too big for you, you are too skinny.
  • If you haven’t even had chocolate in a month because you are afraid it will make you fat, you are probably too skinny and in a bad mood.
  • If your legs look like toothpicks with sneakers, you are probably too skinny.
  • If you are as thin as LeAnn Rimes or Kate Moss, you are too skinny.

I haven’t reached any of these categories, but if I do, I know my mom will call me on it! What is your definition of too skinny?

Kathy is a web producer, entertainment expert and concert photographer for She has written a manuscript about her life as an entertainment reporter and pop culture. Learn more about Kathy on her website. On Wednesdays here on Go Ask Mom, she's chronicling her efforts to lose weight before she and her husband start a family.



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  • Khanrahan Sep 29, 2011

    Thanks Pirategirl! I wanted to respond to let you guys know that I in NO WAY meant to be mean. I was just joking about what I consider too skinny for me! If I don't eat chocolate for a month, I know that I have gone too far in my quest to lose weight because I love it and it makes me happy.

    I like having a little "meat on my bones" and don't want to become so addicted to losing weight that I end up looking drastically different.

    Too skinny is truly when you aren't healthy and your doctor tells you to put weight on.

    So, again didn't mean to come off as mean. Thanks for all the comments. I really love hearing from you.

    - Kathy

  • shall6 Sep 29, 2011

    Thanks everybody for your thoughts! I'm sorry some of you have been disappointed by the site, though it sounds like maybe I need to do a better job letting people know what's regularly on here.

    For what it's worth ... In June, we began featuring easy and (usually) health recipes every Friday. They sometimes include slow cooker meals. Every Wednesday evening, I post a long list of weekend activities, which often are free. On Fridays, I also feature local playgrounds and other places to take kids, which usually (but not always) are free. Every Tuesday, we offer medical tips and advice from Duke Medicine that pertain to woman and kids. And we do have a kids eat free or cheap database ... so those are child-friendly restaurants.

    I'll see what I can do about your other ideas. If you are interested in writing for Go Ask Mom, I'm always open to reading submissions. Just know that these are volunteer positions. My email is

    Sarah, Go Ask Mom's editor

  • FromClayton Sep 29, 2011

    (continued...) Bring me a nutritionist, doctor, super mom, not so super mom, grandma's advice column (darn that is a good idea. If I keep this up, I am going to ask for royalties!). Tell me child friendly restaurants, date friendly restaurants. and I really want an expose on those drop in day cares at the mall. Am I a "bad mom" if I use them? Or am I a "good wife"? Will they feed my child peanut butter and leave him in stinky diapers or is it full of loving grandmas who will love him as much as I do? I really want this to be a good site...and yes, i am for hire....

    Actually at this point, bring us a blog about what you would like to see at goaskmom! I'll fill that one up too. or hire me!

  • FromClayton Sep 29, 2011

    oh i am so with you! Let me blog! I have so much to say! And so do many other mother's. I WANT this to be a good site, but it just isn't. So many of the posts I disagree with. Now we are critiquing body shapes instead of discussing helpful ways to give our children a better life. Where are the easy/healthy recipe tips? crock pot meals in minutes? How to find a daycare that is right for you? Working mommy? Free things to do with your kids (ok I have seen that before, but it needs to be updated often)? How to sneak in exercise into your kids daily routine? How to make "mom friends" (I personally need help there)? Medical questions? Let's talk about poo(recently took a trip to WakeMed Children's ER because of no poo, it's a serious topic)!

  • pirategirl12 Sep 29, 2011

    While I am not an avid reader of this blog because it simple doesn't really pretain to me, I think so people should get a sense of humor. This is Kathy's blog meaning she is allowed to joke about things that relate to her. I don't necessarily think she was trying to slam anyone else, rather just trying to use some humor. I really don't think it came out the way she intended because we all know that emotions do not come through in print lots of times. If I don't agree/like what someone is blogging about I do the logical thing...don't read it.

  • BeKind Sep 28, 2011

    Some of these post are just mean. I enjoy this site and all of the information that you regularly give about upcoming events for children. I have taken my grandchildren to the Puppet Theatre and the Marbels Museum (both great places) because of this site. I will say that the children appreciated these adventures, and I enjoyed the sparkle in their eyes. I often find myself smiling while reading your experiences. Keep up the good work!! and ignore the mean people.

  • TeenDAD Sep 28, 2011

    Amandas probably too busy trying to make money off the murders of others to come up with anything thoughtful. When does "love lies" come out again? Absolutely disgusting.

  • Tarheel89 Sep 28, 2011

    I hate when people say that you are too skinny if you can see bones protruding from your body. I have a very athletic build, but i am also pear shaped. I carry my weight in my lower body. Just because you can see every one of my ribs does not mean I'm too skinny! Too skinny shouldn't have to do with what other people think of your appearance, but with your eating/exercise habits.

  • Killian Sep 28, 2011

    Wow. I think your weight loss is to be commended, but I'm surprised at how offensive you would be towards people who happen to have very thin or light builds.

    What if we flipped your statements?
    If I can't see your collar bones, you are too fat.
    If you are an adult who can't shop at Abercrombie and Fitch or Hollister for your clothes, you are probably too fat.
    If a size 10 is too small for you, you are too fat.
    If you have had chocolate in a month, you are probably too fat and in a bad mood.
    If your legs look like fence posts with sneakers, you are probably too fat.
    If you are as heavy as Melissa McCarthy or Nia Vardalos, you are too fat.

    Now go back and read those statements and let's see you defend them to me and every other woman who isn't "bikini ready".

  • blahblahblah Sep 28, 2011

    Ditto Carolinagirl. I would be embarrassed/ashamed to share some of the stories that Lynda and Amanda post on this blog. Nothing cute about kids with no manners or mothers who have their priorities out of whack.