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Training for Baby: Lost weekend

Posted August 30, 2011

When I started out on this weight loss journey, I had a date circled on my calendar – Aug. 27 – my brother-in-law’s wedding. I wanted to look nice for it since most of the family there would be seeing me for the first time since my wedding three years ago.

Early last year, I joked to my husband that we needed to get pregnant before his brother’s wedding so I had an excuse to be overweight. Then, I realized that losing weight was going to be a big part of our journey to start a family.

The bonus of losing weight to have a healthy pregnancy is that before you get pregnant, you get to enjoy being skinny – something I never really experienced before. It also comes with the fear that you are going to put the weight back on.

The wedding was this past weekend and we had a blast. It gave me a chance to cut loose for the first time since I started eating right and working out.

It was great to not count calories for the night, but when I woke up Sunday morning I had “food guilt.” I knew I consumed some rich wedding cake and a few cocktails that definitely weren’t healthy.

Do you ever experience remorse after eating something bad for you or not exercising?

I sometimes get a little nervous that I will fall out of my healthy habits in lieu of the sweet allure of fried food and sweets that provided me comfort in the past. It might seem silly, but it was so easy for me to put on the weight, I am afraid it will sneak up on me again.

Baby weight is different, but it still scares me a little. I think it is all about changing your attitude toward your body.

I spent the past 10 months focused on losing weight, now I have to learn to maintain where I am, and eventually grow along with a baby. It is a constant adjustment that I look forward to learning how to do.

Kathy is a web producer, entertainment expert and concert photographer for She has written a manuscript about her life as an entertainment reporter and pop culture. Learn more about Kathy on her website. On Wednesdays here on Go Ask Mom, she's chronicling her efforts to lose weight before she and her husband start a family.



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  • snowl Sep 1, 2011

    When you finally do become pregnant you will have an increase in your appetite, that's for sure!
    If you experience what they call "morning sickness" you will not be able to over-eat until that subsides. Then your growing baby will demand more calories from you, but this is easy to control, imo, if you eat frequent but small, healthy meals during the day. Like you said, Don't use the excuse that you are pregnant to gain too much weight. Your doctor will help you with that too. We are waiting to hear your baby news! Good luck.

  • murdock Aug 31, 2011

    The fact you look great is a mute point. The important part is that you are healthier and that will help with pregnancy and your future as a Mom. So it's okay to indulge once in awhile. I lost weight before getting pregnant, and yes, it can be hard to see those "ugly" pounds on the scale, but I also have the joy of a little life inside me. That makes up for the poundage any day.

  • FromClayton Aug 31, 2011

    dont worry about it. when your belly grows because there is a baby in it, it is exciting to watch it grow. you'll take those tummy pictures every week and stick it on facebook. strangers will rub your tummy like you are Buddah in a dress. little kids in the mall you dont know will want to to try and feel the baby kick. Your tummy becomes public property. and its ok.

    and you will still eat healthy. You will have worked so hard for this baby you wont feed your baby junk food. I have never ate so healthy in my life as I did when I was eating for two. Not any caffeen or hot dogs...and i love hot dogs!

    It is said parents always want better for their children than they have themselves. I think that starts with the food they feed them before they even get out of the womb.

    stay on a lifelong healthy diet and you'll do just fine.

    good luck!