As an adult, staring is something we’ve learned to disguise.
We do it behind sunglasses or out of the corner of our eye. Never, EVER straight on! My four-year-old daughter is WAY behind the learning curve to successful staring. Yes, I know it’s not polite in any form, but sometimes, you just gotta. We are human after all.
Case in point, yesterday at the gym. I took Carys into the women’s locker room to change for her ballet class. I tell her to start taking off her clothes as I turn around to put our stuff in the locker. I turn back around and she’s full on staring at the mom and her two daughters changing clothes next to us.
When I say next to us, I mean right next to us. Carys is staring at someone maybe 15 inches away. Not obvious at all! I want to say to Carys, that just can’t FEEL right! Even though you’re really too young to know better, it just can’t FEEL right! She’s not moving a muscle, except those eye muscles that are working overtime. Hands to her sides, head straight ahead, staring just as hard as she can. I can feel myself getting warm.
So what do I do? Correct her now in front of the people, distract her or wait till I get her alone? I chose to tell her quietly that it’s not polite to stare at people and then I distracted her. We had a talk later about not staring at people. She seemed to get it. But we’re still going shopping for sunglasses this weekend!
Lynda is the mom of three and co-host of Mix 101.5 WRAL-FM's Bill & Lynda in the Morning. Find her here on Thursdays.