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Kianey Carter: Taking time for me!

Posted November 24, 2014

Kianey Carter, WRAL-TV morning news producer, Go Ask Mom blogger

The holidays are upon us. Christmas is a month away. ONE MONTH PEOPLE!

While this is supposed to be a joyous time of year filled with family, good food and fun, it is often the most stressful. I am already feeling the stress. My parents and my husband’s parents live on the West Coast. We are trying to coordinate plane tickets, Thanksgiving dinner, Christmas presents, visits with friends and everything else that comes with family living out of state. It’s a mess! Did I mention that I am already STRESSED!

As a wise man once told me, you can’t do everything and you need to take time out for yourself. When my husband uttered those words, I just looked at him like he was crazy. I thought to myself, I have to do everything. Who else is going to book the tickets, coordinate dinners and mail all the presents. As I made multiple to-do lists on my phone, I realized he was right. I can’t do everything and I have to take time to just relax and be with me.

So I did! I made an appointment to get my hair done. Every woman and mother knows, getting your hair done is no small ordeal. You may just be going in for a trim, but an hour later you’ve been transformed into a new person. After my appointment, I was. I spent 90 minutes in a salon with a group of women who were laughing, listening to music, telling jokes and just enjoying each other’s company…and probably enjoying spending time away from their children, husbands, jobs and the stress of life.

I walked out of the salon with a new lease on life. I was no longer wondering when or how I would get everything done. I felt relaxed and ready to take on whatever my family and the world were going to throw at me. From that moment on, I knew I needed to take more time out for myself. Time to just be with me or with a friend. I am proud to say that I’ve done it. 

I’ve started reading more. I am not reading anything intellectually stimulating. I am hooked on romance novels. Like any good book, they transplant me to another world and I love it. In the last month, I’ve seen my hair dresser twice which is much sooner than normal. I’ve gone grocery shopping with a girlfriend instead of my son and I’ve relinquished more nighttime duties to my husband.

These things might seem small but, to me, they’ve been HUGE. Thirty minutes here and there alone with my thoughts or laughing with a friend have helped to keep me sane and smiling. With all of the stresses of the holidays, I need these little moments.

So ladies, take a few minutes out of your day or week to spend by yourself. This may mean you have to lock the bathroom door, but do it! I am endorsing Mommy Me time. We’ve seen the Facebook stories going around about the mom who beat up the lady who told her to control her kids or the seen the mom screaming at her kids in the store. You don’t want to be the subject for Facebook fodder. I know I would have been if I hadn’t discovered just how important Mommy Me time is.

An update: Thank you to everyone who commented or emailed me regarding my blog post last month. Davis has been doing a much better job of eating his vegetables. Just this week, we’ve tackled broccoli! Woohoo!

Thank you for your advice, food suggestions and for taking time out to read my thoughts. I truly appreciate it!

Kianey is the mom of one and a WRAL-TV morning news producer. She writes monthly for Go Ask Mom.

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  • abell1964 Nov 26, 2014

    Great for new mommies & seasoned moms! You always need some "YOU" time. As you get older you cherish 30 minutes here & there like it was hours. Great story, keep'em coming :)