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Jackie Hyland: What to do when your child is hurting

Posted November 26, 2012

At 5 feet 10 inches tall, I was blessed with height. But I am not an athletic kinda gal.

All my life, people have asked me if I ever played basketball or volleyball. Secretly, I wish I was more athletic! But somehow, I missed out on the athletic gene. I hate to run ... but I'll walk really fast. Volleyball hurts my hand. Basketball is fun, but after getting slammed in the face with a ball during a basketball game in high school, I decided it wasn't the sport for me!

The good news here: My daughters have that athletic gene! They most certainly got it from their dad!

My girls started playing volleyball a number of years ago. They love it and they are good at it! Now it seems it has taken over our lives.

Recently, both of my girls tried out for club volleyball. I had no idea what a big deal it is! Hundreds of eager, beautiful girls were trying out for just 10 spots per team.

The girls are really put through their paces during tryouts. Their athletic ability is tested, so too is their coachability and, of course, raw talent. Height helps and my girls have that!

My girls both made top club volleyball teams, and we were thrilled! Then, the unthinkable happened. Days after making the team, my oldest daughter broke her foot while on the volleyball court!

I knew volleyball was a tough sport and injuries were possible, but I was not prepared for this! It was an accident. She was blocking a ball and came down on another girl's foot and rolled her own foot. She is now in a boot and uses crutches. Suddenly, we are looking for ramps instead of stairs ... anything to make things easier for her as she navigates the world on crutches.

The doctor says that she'll be fully healed in eight weeks and might be able to play volleyball sooner. I wonder if should she? How soon is too soon to be back on the court playing volleyball again?

She wants to play. I am not pushing her. I know she is young and should heal quickly, but I have so many questions. If she gets back on the court in, say, six weeks, is it too soon? Will she suffer down the road?

This is the first time a child of mine has suffered a broken bone and I realize I am scared and I don't have all the answers! Just when you think you have this parenting thing down, you are thrown a volley again!!

Jackie is the mom of a tween and a teen. She is an anchor for WRAL-TV. Find her here on Go Ask Mom monthly starting today.



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  • cmmsbft Nov 28, 2012

    TeenDad4_WorldTour...I have read your prior posts. You really aren't any dumber for having read my posts, you are fully capable of that on your own...Oh, snap!

  • thecatsmeow67 Nov 27, 2012

    Jackie, My daughter broke her leg roller skating and she is a dancer. She finally asked when she could go skating again and I foolishly said " do u really want to chance it?". She told me that if she did not get back up on the skates the skates would beat her. BTW she was dancing in her cast 2.5 weeks after her cast was put on. She still wears her brace because of all of the jumps she has to do, but I can't hold her back.

  • baldchip Nov 27, 2012

    Hope she feels better-soon. Skip the ramp deal-this is temporary!

    A others have said, listen to the MD. He has your daughter's best interest at heart. He needs & wants your repeat business as well as your referrals.

  • JAT Nov 27, 2012

    I hate seeing parents who keep pushing their kids when the kid's body just isn't ready. A kid shouldn't need constant surgeries and rehab. It's a sign their body just isn't strong enough yet. The world will not fall apart if they don't play a sport; the sun will still rise. I'd rather have my kid be a little mad with me than damage his or her body beyond repair. I'm not saying you're doing any of this (and don't think you are) but alot of parents do and it's very sad. I'd love to have a star athlete as a child, too, but if their body isn't able to stand it, it's only doing them harm.

  • cmmsbft Nov 27, 2012

    TeenDad4_WorldTour...Mind your own business

  • TeenDad4_WorldTour Nov 27, 2012

    Please...Such drama
    November 26, 2012 11:17 p.m.
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    Seriously, everyone is now dumber for having read that.

  • jsutton Nov 27, 2012

    gsctmm is correct I wear the volleyball ankle braces everytime I play indoor.

  • gsctmm Nov 27, 2012

    Our daughter played club volleyball for about 5 years and actually played one year with a fracture in her foot, only because xrays did not show the fracture until after the season. I would listen to what the doctor says when the time comes. Your daughter will know when it is time to get back on the court. Invest in volleyball ankle braces.

  • jsutton Nov 27, 2012

    She will play again and be fine. I have played for approx 20 yrs now and have rolled my ankle several times. I also coached UNC womens club volleyball for a season and know what you mean about tryouts. That was the hardest thing to pick only 10 per team with so many good girls. I absolutely love volleyball and plan on teaching my son and daughter to play as well. Good luck and speedy recovery.

  • angelienna Nov 27, 2012

    Of course let her play. My son flipped a 4 wheeler, broke his arm so badly they had to do surgery to put a rod in... 4 months later, the rod came out and after 2 weeks he was back to riding... not going to tell him he can't do something he loves and has been doing since the age of 4 becasue of my fear of him getting hurt. It is not fair to him to make my fears his own. My job is to worry.. his job is to give me opportunities to worry over him :-)