If you do these 5 things, you are pushing your man away forever
Posted May 16
It is so easy to go wrong when it comes to loving someone. We welcome any advice that could help us to avoid mistakes that can end our relationship. We are so afraid of losing the man we love, that in our eagerness to hold onto him, all we do is worry about losing him.
When you're in love, you want that feeling to stay around forever. But, like my grandmother always said, love blinds us ... and makes us prone to making some silly mistakes — mistakes that could destroy our relationship.
Almost all women are guilty of these five relationship mistakes. Are you?
1. You show too much interest
Men do not like to be hunted — they like to be the hunter. Early on in the relationships, men do not like knowing we are going to be there by their side no matter what they do. If we make things too easy for them, they lose interest.
Women feel butterflies every time we go to see our mister, but he feels butterflies when you become a challenge. When you give him a chance to fight for your attention, he can’t help but to fall for you.
But in fear of losing him, we do the opposite. We show that we are super interested, to convince him we're his forever. However, this mistake has the opposite effect. Instead, your man stops working to fight for you.
The key is keeping a careful balance — let him know you're around but still play hard to get sometimes.
2. You became a totally different woman than who he fell in love with
This is one of the most common mistakes women make when trying to earn the love of a man. We like him, so we find out his interests then we force ourselves to like the same things he does — we try to become someone else so he will love us back.
This is a big mistake. This will only lead to the relationship ending. It will also make you miserable — no one wants to pretend to be something you are not. If someone loves you, he must love you as you are. You shouldn't have to reinvent yourself for him or for anyone.
3. He becomes your drug
You will never be happy if your happiness depends on another person. You’ve lived your whole life without this person, and you can continue to do so. Contrary to what many people think, the phrase "I cannot live without you" only makes the other person feel a lot of pressure. That's not a burden you should pass onto the man you are in love with.
4. You take control of his life
This is another very common mistake: When we love someone, we try to change them. We may have better taste in clothes or better ideas on how to live a healthier life, but that is not our job. Being in a relationship doesn't mean we can take charge of our mister's life.
All human beings love to feel loved because of who they are. Only being loved when you wear the "right clothes" or eat "like this" will push any man away.
5. You stop doing fun and interesting things together
This goes for all couples, whether you're married or dating. Letting your relationship fall into a predictable and boring routine isn't exciting. Life is meant to be explored, and adventures are best when you have someone by your side. Don't let your man leave just because you won't explore the world together.
Don't let these simple mistakes ruin a great relationship. Talk with your love about what you both want out of this relationship and pledge to be honest. If he won't love you for who you are, he's not worth your time. But avoiding these mistakes could mean you'll find the person you're meant to be with.
Mariel Reimann is the Content Director at KSL Latino. She's studied law at the National University of Cordoba, currently resides in Salt Lake City, Utah. Email: firstname.lastname@example.org.