If Brad and Angelina can't make it work, how are we supposed to?

Posted September 28

What does the end of a Hollywood love story mean for the rest of us? (Deseret Photo)

Brangelina has come to an end.

Angelina Jolie filed divorce papers on September 19 to separate from Brad Pitt.

The couple has been married since 2014, but they have officially been a couple since 2005. They are the parents of six children.

As we watch one of Hollywood’s most beloved couples fall apart, how are we supposed to maintain relationships that can actually last?

Here are five vital points to making a relationship work:


Good communication is the foundation for every healthy relationship. If you want to have a good relationship with your spouse, you have to be able to share your thoughts and feelings with them. In return, you must listen to their thoughts and feelings. Relationships fall apart when couples feel like they can’t be open and honest with each other.


The best marriages happen when spouses make the other their priority. Often, this requires sacrificing your own wants for your spouse and, consequently, the marriage.

What’s more important to you -- the shiny new car you think you need, or the financial security your spouse is craving? Spending time scrolling social media, or using that time to connect with your spouse? What you sacrifice reveals your priorities.


Whether through your speach or the things you do for them, show your spouse you love them. When you serve them, you show that you value them and care about their well-being. To meaningfully serve them, you have to pay attention to what they need and what things are important to them. Your love for your spouse will grow as you find ways to show it.


You and your spouse are a team. You are partners in the great game of life. Build this partnership by spending time together.

Do hard things.

Do those things your spouse loves that are new to you.

Do whatever, but do it together.

As you navigate different situations together, your bond as a couple strengthens.

Love yourself

Without loving yourself first, you can’t know what it means to love completely, unconditionally. You are part of a team, but you can’t give love unless you love yourself - your whole self.

Recognize your value. Loving yourself helps you see what you have to offer in your marriage. Your spouse can love you more fully if they know you love yourself.

Here are 10 Hollywood couples who’ve been together forever and been able to make it work:

Tom Hanks and Rita Wilson

Married since 1988 -- 28 years

Sarah Jessica Parker and Matthew Broderick

Married since 1997 -- 19 years

Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith

Married since 1997 -- 19 years

Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell

Committed relationship since 1983 -- 33 years

Denzel and Pauletta Washington

Married since 1983 -- 33 years

Meryl Streep and Don Gummer

Married since 1978 -- 38 years

Hugh Jackman and Deborra-Lee Furness

Married since 1996 -- 20 years

Sting and Trudie Styler

Married since 1992, committed relationship since 1982 -- 34 years

Kevin Bacon and Kyra Sedgwick

Married since 1988 -- 28 years

Jeff Bridges and Susan Geston

Married since 1977 -- 39 years

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  • Aiden Audric Sep 28, 3:02 p.m.
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    Communicate: if you effectively communicate but disagree, communication won't make the relationship work.

    Sacrifice: when both spouses put the other first all the time, resentment creeps in.

    Serve them. Serve them? Refer back to "sacrifice".

    Bond: forcing a 'bond' over something that isn't a mutual interest doesn't add a spark to the relationship. Refer back to "sacrifice".

    Love yourself: that one works. But it keeps your relationship with yourself happy, and you in touch with yourself so the other 4 don't end up being snake oil.

    Sometimes it's best to call it quits instead of forcing things, just for the sake of saying "I've been married for decades!" (and sleeping in the guest room for almost as long - but, hey, we got "the number" to brag about!).

    Ever meet a single person who's happy staying single... and has been through marriage/LTRs? Ever meet miserable married couples?

    Easier to respect the former than the latter.