How to romance your wife
Posted April 24
You know your wife wants romance, and you probably know you should try a little harder. But it doesn’t come naturally. When you were dating, your romantic and creative side meant flowers, love notes and chocolates.
But after “we’re in love” turns to “we’re married,” it’s easy to settle into a comfortable rut where the dates and romantic gestures are far and few in between.
Men, don’t give up on romance so easily! Forget the grand gestures and focus on the little things that will put a smile on her face and make her swoon all over again. Here are some simple and cute ways to romance your wife:
Let her know you’re thinking about her and how grateful you are for her throughout the day. A simple text, note or a phone call just to tell her you love her gets the message across.
Learn her love language
Know and understand what makes her happy. No matter her love language, here’s an example of things you can do for her:
- Acts of service: do the dishes and wash her car.
- Words of affirmation: write her a love letter and tell her how beautiful she looks.
- Physical touch: hold her hand in public and give her a massage before bed.
- Receiving gifts: give her a jar of “love coupons” which say things like, “I owe you a dinner date to your favorite restaurant,” to redeem whenever she chooses.
- Quality time: take her on a walk, hold hands and talk about her day.
Every time you do something for her to show you care, switch it up. Repeating the same action becomes routine. Instead, think outside the box and start your day with a surprising ritual.
Give her a gift for no reason. A surprise trip, a pair of earrings or a flower from the back yard will do nicely. No matter how small or grand, surprising her shows her how much you care.
Ask her about her day
Show a genuine interest in how she’s doing.
Compliment her daily
Taking time to remind her how amazing she is also reminds you how incredible your wife is.
Genuinely ask, “What can I do for you today?”
Even if her love language isn’t acts of service, serve her. Knowing she has your help and support will mean the world to her.
Tell her you love her
Saying and hearing “I love you” is crucial to believing it’s true.
Plan a picnic
Before she gets home, pack her favorite foods in a basket and grab a blanket for a romantic meal for two. If it’s chilly outside, set the blanket out on the living room floor for an indoor picnic.
Swap babysitting with another couple
Have a “babysitting date night” for some of your friends. Watch their kids one weekend, then switch the next weekend and enjoy a child-free, romantic date with just the two of you.
Give her a heart attack
Collect as many different kinds of hearts that you can find. (Paper cut outs, stuffed pillows, heart confetti, etc.) Hide them everywhere: in her purse, cupboards, pockets and drawers. Put them in her sun visor in her car so when she lowers it, she's showered with hearts. Stuff her wallet full so she has to sort through them to pay for her groceries. Be creative.
Turn her birthday into her birth month
Instead of only celebrating her for one day, do little things to celebrate her for the entire month. These celebrations don’t have to cost anything. No matter what you do, she will still feel spoiled and loved. What girl doesn’t want that?
Call and text her
Sending her a quick text or calling her during your lunch break will make her day. Make it a habit, and it will quickly become a ritual she looks forward to.
Kiss her like it’s the first time
Life gets busy and sometimes it’s rare to get more than a quick peck before running off to the next thing. Take a couple of seconds every day to stop, hold her tight, look into her eyes and give her a long-lasting kiss that makes her tingle from head to toe.
The key to romance is making an honest effort. So go out of your way to win her heart again and again. As you do the unexpected, you’ll discover just how fun it is to surprise the love of your life – not to mention the added joy of having a wife who is continually falling in love with you.
Kristina Tieken is a publics relations specialist with a love for the fine arts, food and exercise. She enjoys spending time with her husband and family.