How to build your wife up instead of tearing her down
Posted July 4
John is a man who’s an amazing husband and father. However, has certain habits that damage his wife's self-esteem.
Every Sunday, John and his wife Julie take their six-year-old daughter on a walk in teh park. Their day is peaceful, but Julie often spends these Sundays discouraged, unbeknownst to her husband.
Julie is upset that her husband stares and turns his head every time another beautiful woman passes them on the trail. Julie is a confident and overall is happy in her marriage, but she can’t help but feel bad when this happens.
This is just one example of how a husband can hurt his wife’s self-esteem without knowing even it. However, there are many others. As a partner in this marriage, part of your role as a spouse is to uplight your wife — you can't do that if you're unknowingly destroying her sense of confidence.
Instead, boost her sense of confidence by doing these things:
1. Notice when she changes her appearance
Men are notorious for not noticing when a woman changes her makeup routine, hair style or when she wears new clothes. Your wife would never admit it, but she wants you to notice. She likes to look good for you, so noticing small details can go a long way.
Comment when you notice even a small change. Ask her what she did differently, tell her she’s gorgeous and that you love her new look.
If you hate her new hair or whatever it is she changed, focus on the effort she made to switch up her look. She's still the same person under that red, red hair. The most important thing is that she’s happy and comfortable with her change — love her for that confidence.
2. Let everyone know you’re proud of her
Women love to feel valued. Never make your wife feel like you’re ashamed to be with her. Tell people about her accomplishments, hold her hand and walk proudly with her in public. Help her focus on her goals and achieve them — be her cheerleader and her support team.
3. Don’t look at other women
If you accidentally glance at a woman who isn’t your wife, it’s not the end of the world. Everyone does it and it can’t be avoided unless you insist on walking around with your eyes closed. However, when you’re intentionally seeking out woman to stare at, it’s a serious blow to your sweetheart’s self-esteem (and the health of your marriage).
Ask yourself how you would feel if your wife was constantly seeking out other men to stare at. You probably wouldn’t love it, and she doesn’t either. Keep your eyes on your wife and see how she smiles.
4. Self-esteem is important
No matter how self-confident you are, there are things that take a blow to your self-esteem, even if it's not intentional. Married life should allow both partners to live a life full of love, understanding and support. It's crucial that both husbands and wives work to build up their spouse to create a healthy and happy marriage. Never underestimate how important it is to treat your spouse with love, kindness and respect.
Hay un momento de la vida en que descubrimos que necesitamos un cambio para poder avanzar y crecer reconoce el momento y no pierdas la oportunidad.