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Help a Mom: Searching for groups providing aid to disabled, sick

Posted July 23, 2013

I received this email from a mom who was diagnosed with a serious disorder after the birth of her child. She needs help doing small things around the house, such as cleaning the floors and bathrooms, and taking her and her son to the park.

But with mounting out-of-pocket medical bills, she can't afford a regular cleaning service or traditional help. She's wondering if there are any volunteer groups that might lend people like her a hand.

Here's what she wrote: 

I am a new mom who, after giving birth, my physical condition started to deteriorate. I was finally diagnosed at Duke with EDS, Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome Type 3. My question is are there any programs in the area that come into the home that help someone in my position that aren't expensive?

I looked at cleaning services just to come once a month and with the amount of medical out of pocket we are paying even with insurance, things are very tight. I didn't know if there were volunteer organizations that could help get me and him to the park [or help complete] the only chores that are getting very difficult ... the floors and the bathrooms. ... I have posted on bulletin boards. I have searched for home health volunteers. No medical knowledge is needed, just help during the day so I can be the wife and mother I want to be. I am trying very hard to keep my head up and I do have a wonderful support of some family and friends, but they have full lives of their own. I never imagined it would get this bad ...

I don't know of a non-profit that might provide this kind of help, but I thought I'd throw it out there. 

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  • RileyQuinnsMom Jul 25, 2013

    NC DHHS has a lot of programs that help adults including in home assistance, transportation, and meal preperation. Go to your local social services office to find out what help you qualify for through the state and then contact the other great programs mentioned here.

  • bgrmom Jul 24, 2013

    May I suggest contacting a local church to see if they have sponsored a girl or boy scout troop? If so, scouts are usually willing to lend a hand! I know our cub scout pack is always looking for volunteer opportunities. I am sure older boy/girl scouts could help out and their parents might be willing to pitch in as well.

  • FromClayton Jul 24, 2013

    Bless your heart. How old is your son? Maybe there are other mother's around with a child the same age and you could plan playdates. Wouldn't seem like much of a burden to swing by and pick the two of you up if the other mother and child were going anyway.

  • justwritemary Jul 24, 2013

    Hello there, if you are in Wake County, I am part of a group that does just what you need for the elderly and disabled.
    If you aren't in Wake, you still might consider contacting them to see if they have any contacts in your county.
    I'm also someone with EDS and am sorry to hear of your diagnosis. You can also find a lot of EDS info on the "Ehlers Danlos Syndrome" facebook site too. I am not part of a local EDS group, but I wouldn't be surprised if we have one.

  • shall6 Jul 24, 2013

    Thank you, kassady618!


  • shall6 Jul 24, 2013

    From my inbox:

    "You can try When I was ill I was told about the organization but never needed their assistance so I don't know anything about them other than they are there to help those who need it."


  • kassady618 Jul 23, 2013

    Through my local Cleveland EDS group, we were able to work with local high school students that needed to meet their volunteer credits to graduate and also many churches/college organizations may be willing to help. I recommend getting in touch with they may have more suggestions!