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Happy Moms: Handling public tantrums

Posted July 15, 2014

We've all been there. You're at the grocery store and your child throws a fit because you won't buy them a toy or candy or some other treat.

Susan Orenstein, a Cary-based psychologist and relationships expert, reminds us all that we're not the only ones to deal with a crabby, unruly kid in public.

Watch the video for more from Orenstein, a mom of two herself, about to handle situations like this. And check the More on This section for other tips from her.

Orenstein is with Orenstein Solutions in Cary. She'll be a speaker at the Happy Mama Conference & Retreat in Durham, which is July 25 to July 27, at the Washington Duke Inn. It is designed for moms with children with "invisible" special needs. The weekend includes speakers on wellness, self-care and overcoming mom guilt, along with activities such as yoga and Zumba.


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  • busyb97 Jul 16, 2014

    And if you have to leave the place, do it. That also reinforces that they will not bully the parent. I remember when my oldest was about a year and a half or so. We went to a restaurant with my inlaws. While we waited on our food, grandma walked around the restaurant and out on the sidewalk with him, even though I asked her not to take him from his seat.,..he wasnt fussing at the time. When the food came, he didnt want to sit still and threw a FIT! So, I told my hubby to box up my food when they were done, everyone enjoy their meal like normal and my son and I went to the car and we waited there. Grandma didnt like it, but my kids never acted up in public again! We did that once for each of our kids. Nothing else was needed really. I know that doesnt work for everyone, but there are a few family members I wish wouldpractice that! My five yr old nephew is terrible! His parents scream back n forth for awhile and then just cave....duh. Works wonderfully....not!

  • snowl Jul 16, 2014 4 year old grandson shows me his yoga poses included with his dance moves! Happy Kids = Happy Grandma! My advise for public tantrums is distraction!

  • JAT Jul 16, 2014

    you just let them scream it out. it usually only takes one time for them not getting reinforcement to learn it won't work. every parent has been there and if they haven't, then they've either never taken their kid out in public or there's a big problem. And, there's my free advice, no psych degree needed, no need to attend a conference.

    And, there are moms that have time for yoga? What a concept!