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i dont know how im going to describe this because i am a victim of abuse with my fiance and i just need people who are going through what im going through now and form a group so i could get over it and help others going through realtionship abuse also. i also want to include why do we get so angry question too in this group get some questions and answers about why peolpe get so angry to hurt and possibly kill a love one





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I am new to this group....I was excited to see that this group was on GOLO. I have a very interesting story and right now am going through separation with my husband of 4 years and the father of my youngest son who will be 3 next month. Thanks for starting this group...I hope to learn alot from others who might be going through the same thing I am!!

Been there done that too for 10yrs he didn't start being physical (I didn't give him that option) but the verbal abuse and constant degrading was enough to make you want to jump out of your skin. I walked on egg shells and didn't breath in the same room with him as I never knew what would set him off. He made the wrong comment & struck my son, that was it!!!! I rented and uhaul that saturday and never looked back. God bless & be with all of you that are/had to endure this.

I have been there and done that. Current restraining order. Will be filing divorce within the next few weeks. My ex told me I will get a divorce over my dead body and the threats to me have increased over the last few months. Love doesn't hurt. It took me 12 years to learn this. I only pray that my children do not continue to suffer and strive everyday to make sure that they are as healthy and happy as possible.

Abuse in any relationship is NOT, I REPEAT NOT love. If that nut is abusing you now it will get even worse when you're married.

Please, Please get out of that mire now. Turn and run from a man who abuses you.

Son't believe that lie that says a woman cannot get along without a men. YOU CAN EXIST WITHOUT A MAN! Son't let him have another chance to take advantage of you.

Mental or physical abuse will eventually drain you of everything and you will bae alive but cease to exist. Don't be a casualty! Don't expect much help from the law or friends or family. The end is up to you.

Get out now!

I'm glad to see that you know to rely on God for the courage to get yourself and your son away from him. You just never know how serious things can get. It's really scary to hear about all the women being killed by their husbands...I know I always think, thank God I'm not with him anymore. And like the Rev RB said, don't ever let yourself think that it's your fault. That's one thing I never did. If a man isn't man enough to walk away when a woman makes him mad....he's not a man!

Sounds like the typical intimidator and the sad part is they do it to women. Probably would never have the courage to do it to a man, they might seem like they will but when it comes down to it they back down like cowards. My ex's problem only happened when he would drink. During the times he was sober he never even considered laying a hand on me. But the alchohol brought the demons out in him...literally! His whole actions would change and he would actually look like the devil. it was scary. I used to be so scared when I heard him coming home. I never knew how he was going to be. Plus, his daughter was living with us and he never physically abused her but he did mentally. He would get her up at 2 in the morning on a school night and make her stand there and listen to him while he was whining and whimpering about his life.

hes had 2 hip replacements and it took him til about a yr ago to finally realized that he messed up..he apologized for the things he did. i been forgave for the things he did cos threw it all,,,like the phase says,,,wat goes around, comes around 10 times worser...he has gotten everything back that he did to me..

i still dont trust him and never will...i dont see myself ever,,,i mean ever going back to him. he took alot of things from me but threw Gods guidance,,,my mom and others,,I Made It Threw The Storm.

i dont know wats worser, the physical abuse or the mental abuse.. i was married for 10 years and i loved my husband dearly...ive had my glasses broke 2 times and bruises and black eyes..its not fun having to walk around looking like that. the last time we got into it,,my son step n and i knew it was time to go..i left him and for about a year he would nagged me,,,try to manipulate any of my friends especially if they were males..he had me so scared that i wouldnt go away alone,,i wouldnt sit out or even go to a store..he would come up out the blue no matter where i was at and try to beat my u know wat. i got tired of it and started taking out papers on him...we stayed together 4 10 yrs and i finally got the nerve to leave him alone totally in 2000. i made myself a promise that i dont need any man who thinks im a punching bag..i refuse to be with any man whos abusive in any kind of way.. now,,we get along fine,,,SEPARATED N DIVORCED. love the single life!

I went thru 8 years of abuse by my ex-husband. Anything you want to talk about or ask about, just ask. No one should ever have to go thru abuse but we do. We just need the help and the know how to get through it. My husband and I split 10 years ago and then tried to get back together...it lasted 3 years and I had to get a restraining order in the end. :(

I pray that know that nothing you've done warranted you to receive this abuse, and I pray that you will leave him while you are still safe.

You are God's creation; there is a reason why you are the way you are, and no one has the right to sully God's creation either with words or actions or deeds.

God bless.

RB

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