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embracing change

Published Sep. 22, 2008
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We are afraid of change. It's human nature. The fear of change—the fear of the unknown—is so great that we continue to live within the constraints of our own invisible walls.

 

Force of habit is a considerable influence in our culture; habit is synonymous with stability while change is disconcerting. It stirs unrest, like a storm stirs the sediment in the sea; until the waters calm down and the sediment settles back to the bottom, the water appears cloudy.

 

We are very much creatures of habit. We eat, work and sleep at specific times, and have squeezed in multiple other activities, with little to no room for change.

 

In the midst of this structured life, most of us inevitably arrive at a point where change is necessary for survival. Because we never learned to easily accept change, we panic when we feel forced to make important decisions. Instead of embracing change as a new opportunity filled with adventure, we become almost paralyzed with fear.

 

Controlled by fear, we dig in and stay put, even if the walls are closing in. We stay in miserable life situations, feeling we don't have the strength to change anything, until something pushes us to our limit and we must make a choice.

 

Many times our fears aren't readily apparent. Sometimes we know what we want and pursue it with confidence, with no doubts. Or so we think. No matter how sure we are in our minds about a goal or desire, fears often lurk beneath the surface.

 

As scary as change can be, it doesn't have to be undertaken all at once. Sometimes small steps in the right direction are more beneficial than an explosive life-altering effort. Taking small steps, one day at a time, is less traumatic than rebuilding our entire world from scratch.

 

If we can learn to tap into our innate wisdom and intuition, we will gradually become able to discern the difference between our fears based on insecurities versus our soul trying to steer us into the flow of least resistance.

 

Change, and the strength to surrender to it, are an important part of our lives and should be viewed as an opportunity to experience wonderful things yet unseen.

 

 

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Sometimes the hardest thing about change is dealing with the loved ones in your life. They may not understand why you feel a need to make this change, or maybe a change you are undertaking frightens them and they knowingly or unknowingly try to dissuade you. And sometimes they may be afraid the change you are making may reflect poorly on them.

What I've ultimately found is that only by seeking and embracing change can we the divine the measure of our inner strengths and truest commitments.

"Change thrills me. Rollercoasters, however, do not."

We are on the same page, LOL.

I once received an award for the way I "managed change" in my department. I never considered it that, I've just always rolled with the punches and found a way to make the best of it. Never knew I was "managing change" until it was pointed out. Good blog Sandra.

Change thrills me. Rollercoasters, however, do not.

Mohnkae, some of my greatest blessings have originated from the things I was most afraid to embrace. :)

Change is Life's only constant. "Embracing Change" is an attitude worth adopting, if for no better reason that you will be better prepared for life's next surprise...which will be along presently ;-)

Besides, have you ever noticed that every wonderful thing in your life came to you from the same "unknown" that we all fear?

That's true Sandra. That's why I appreciate the little things in life.

You are right, Brooklyn, it doesn't. That's what makes the good moments so precious to us. We wouldn't appreciate the beauty of sunrise if we hadn't gone through the dark night.

My life has never been 'smooth' so I'm always expecting the next change. It doesn't bother me. I've learned never to get too comfortable when things are going good because it doesn't last forever.

Hey Kev,

how's your writing coming along?

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