internet crimes against children: blog 
internet crimes against children's blog
parent child trust
by Durham Police ICACPublished Jul. 13, 2008
Only about 10% of children who are solicited online will tell a parent, guardian, or trusted adult. Scary? We have no one to blame, but ourselves. When children are asked why they do not tell parents it reveals the lack of trust that parents have for children and children for their parents.
When children were asked why they did not tell an adult the most common answer was that they were afraid their internet usage would be affected. I can not say that they are wrong. Most adults immediately go into momma bear mode when a child is threatened in some way. I would simply advise that you trust them and that they trust you.
If a child is smart enough to come to an adult and say, "This guy wanted to talk to me about sex." I would hope that the adult would be smart enough to trust that child and not take their internet access from them.
The other side of that coin being that a child has to realize that an adult usually has the child's best interest at heart and that they can not place the child in a continued threat of danger. They must trust adults and realize that while their internet access remains, it may have limits.
Only 10% of online solicitations are reported to a parent/guardian/trusted adult. Of those only 10% are reported to law enforcement, internet hotline, or an ISP.
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Kids want reasons and if you have a legitimate reason for doing something, they you should tell them so -- in detail. It teaches them a great lesson as to why decisions are made the way they are which is exactly what parents should be teaching their kids in the first place. It also teaches them to formulate arguments against your position that they are forced to present if they have a chance of changing your mind. Giving them concrete reasons teaches them to think for themselves.
Just saying "because" is bogus and you only have yourself to blame when your kids ignore you.
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