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Published Jun. 28, 2008Ok, I spent the last three days at my ex's, ok #1. We divorced over 25 yrs ago, but have kept up due to two great kids. We enjoys the same music, wine, and are both pet lovers. I did a bunch of honey doo's, which she needed, and I can't do but so much stuff like that while iiving in a condo. My gf is in PA a few more days, and she has sounded jealous on the phone...ie "I hope you are not having too much fun"...which actually we were, but nuttin' inappropriate. My question, for those divorced here, what relationship do you maintain, and how does your current "thing" handle it??
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I admire you for being good with your ex since you do have kids. I think it was wonderful that you helped her out and did some things that she was not able to do herself. I see nothing wrong with your helping her out because in helping her you are helping your kids by setting a exmaple for them to follow.
GOLO member since July 19, 2007
July 3, 2008 11:31 p.m.
If you can be friendly with your ex, and everyone is cool with it, then I see no harm in it. It can be a good thing if you've got kids. Especially if they are young kids.
But if your significant other (be it a spouse, fiancee, long-term partner, etc) has issues with it, for whatever reason, it bears examining.
There are always agreements/concessions to be made that could have the situation work out to the benefit of all parties, I think.
Digging one's heels into the sand isn't going to make anything better, it'll just leave your current fiancee wondering why on earth her feelings over the whole situation aren't being considered carefully. Nobody wants to feel like they are less important (emotionally, that is) than an ex.
Now, kids, that's another matter. If a current partner doesn't respect the time you spend with your kids, that's just not gonna work.
GOLO member since December 4, 2007
June 29, 2008 1:26 p.m.
I have a ex and we havne't talked since the divorce except for a couple of screaming matches and put downs.... He has yet to leave my family alone and has moved on with his life and is remarried kids etc... Supposedly so happy... Luckily he is in TX and me here.... I don't care if I ever see or talk to him again....
GOLO member since January 24, 2008
June 28, 2008 8:07 p.m.
Anyhoo, he's moved across the country to the left coast, and that is perfectly okay by me. My boys still have to go out to visit, so I am civil with him at best.
He's remarried, as am I. (My spouse doesn't care much for him, altho I do think the new wife is good for the kids.) Of course, I'm not a big fan of hubby's ex, either, but we do still live in the same county and need to try to make nice. :P
GOLO member since October 24, 2007
June 28, 2008 7:01 p.m.
I have no problem with my hubby's ex. She and I get along well and talk on the phone frequently.
I think that it's a good thing that the two of you get along so well. :D
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