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Published May 25, 2008
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 Folks, I am trying to get over a bad divorce, followed by a bad relationship...of course none of it is my fault! Ha!  I am older than most here at golo, married real young for 10 yrs, then another great gal for 20.  I am a good and faithful man. 

My gf is sweet and all, but dominated by her daughter/grandaughter.  I just do not feel like I am a priority, and I am not that needy. Those with grandchildren need to beware. 




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alright here jack this is what the 4th blog on this...how the g/f favors the kid and grandkid....when are you gonna get over and accept this as natural.....i mean come on ..do you expect her to toss the daughter and grandkid for a man? and another thing i note..she is the g/f....is there a diamond...talk of a wedding or what...i mean sounds like you are joe blow wanting her to put you ahead of what is permanent...

Jack,

Run buddy, there are plenty of fish in the sea.

Have you considered dating attractive married women that are unhappy in their relationship.

At least give it a try before you get too involved.

Jack, regarding your 2nd paragraph: Have you told your gf this? Maybe you should. Life is too short and hell is too hot to be miserable. (I'm not saying you are miserable, but I meant that more as figuratively speaking). Good luck

:-)

Beth

WOW! Golo Boy always has the BEST advice, doesn't he!??? LOL!!!! (Just pickin' with ya, GB)

:-)

Beth

You know I never would have thought that this was possible, however, I agree with Golo Boy and Bones!

I'mmagonna dump this blog.

jack--I've seen where you've asked for advise on this relationship before but I haven't said anything. Anyway, what you've said has got me thinking. My husband was married before me and they had a son. He's 10 now. There were times in the beginning that I felt like I was competing with the child. Now we have two of our own and I feel that way about them sometimes! For me it's different because I've been in my step-son's life since he was two. He's the same to me as my other two kids--I just don't get to see him as often. Maybe if you spend more time with her daughter and grandaughter you will begin to feel differently. Maybe you won't feel like you're competing and instead enjoy your time with them. I was always a priority of my husband's, I just didn't always see it. :)

Men require SO much attention. ***** Rolls eyes ***** J/K!

Jackadoo...move out, live on your own, or send them packing all very civilly...if they want to appreciate you, then maybe after dating a year, you will establish a new relationship, but probably not, so go for someone else, and both keep their own places...or, better, consider saving a dog from the pound and make friends,n ot girl friends...

A horrible end is better than horrors without end.

Wheelerx5 had a good idea and some good advice.

I compare this dilemnia to marrying someone with kids and being a step-parent. It takes a special person to accept those kids as their own and to treat them as such. When you have a blended family, there are always ups and downs and some type of partiality shown, intentional or not. It is human nature. I would say that a woman should never let a man come between her and children and probably will not. You need to find a way to participate in the existing relationship or it may not be productive. If you and she get married, they should become like your grandchildren. You need to stop and think that if it were reversed, what would you expect out of her? Your relationship can work, but it will require more patience and acceptance since you have no blood ties.

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