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Published May. 13, 2008"You know it is hard to punish your kids now adays because of the fear it will be looked at as abuse! " This was a comment on an earlier blog about the 9 year old with the knife. I know there was another blog about excuses for behavior. But this quote struck me. We hear that alot. Parents don't/can't punish their child because someone will call child abuse on them. How many of you believe this? I find it a little hard to swallow. I don't have any trouble discipining my three children, whether it be in public or private. How will a child know what behavior is acceptable if we let them get away with anything and everything? I think we do that with our adult children and our friends and family and coworkers, etc. Why are we so afraid to say 'that behavior is unacceptable'? don't give me the standard answer. It's not because people WILL hit you if you say something to them. It's that you've been TOLD they will hit you. As long as we aren't willing to stand up for what's right and perhaps take a little flack for it, people like this 9 year old....and his poor parents...will continue to be responsible for the direction our society is heading.
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GOLO member since February 10, 2008
May 13, 2008 9:02 p.m.
IF someone calls the cops on me and im arrested, im going to tell the judge, I can discipline now or you can be sentencing them for crimes in 10 yrs, YOUR Choice. There is a difference between beating and disciplining. I used to watch this little girl starting when she was 3 and now shes almost 5,she's a little you know what cause her mother is to lazy to discipline her.Ive had her in time outs at least 20 times her first 6 months here and her mother would be surprised when her own kid would apologize for doing something wrong,that really blew
GOLO member since December 11, 2007
May 13, 2008 4:02 p.m.
GOLO member since March 17, 2008
May 13, 2008 3:56 p.m.
I don't believe in punishment, I believe in discipline - and there is a difference. Discipline is to teach, punishment is to hurt.
I was a nanny for over 10 years and the best forms of discipline I found was reward and restriction. The children were praised highly for appropriate behavior and they lost toys or priviledges for inappropriate behavior. They ranged in age from 6 weeks to 4 years, and I could take them anywhere without fear of embarrassment, although with infants, you have to plan things around their naps and wakeful periods.
With regard to corporal punishment, listen: if you're spanking your child somewhere other than their bum or perhaps hand, if you're spanking them when you're angry or if you hit them more than once, CAUTION - you may be abusing.
And a pop on the bum once in a while does no harm and certainly redirects inappropriate behavior.
God bless.
Rev. RB
GOLO member since July 2, 2007
May 13, 2008 3:49 p.m.
GOLO member since July 28, 2007
May 13, 2008 3:46 p.m.
GOLO member since October 18, 2007
May 13, 2008 3:46 p.m.
GOLO member since July 28, 2007
May 13, 2008 3:46 p.m.
GOLO member since July 4, 2007
May 13, 2008 3:42 p.m.
More on topic, I think most folks know the difference between a 'spanking' and 'hitting' a child in uncontrolled violence.
But, that judgment is in the eye of the beholder most times.
GOLO member since July 15, 2007
May 13, 2008 3:42 p.m.
KIDS SHOULD BE AFFRAID OF PARENTS...ITS LIKE TRAINING A DOG....HALF A/ DISCIPLINE GETS YOU HALF A/ TRAINING.
GOLO member since July 4, 2007
May 13, 2008 3:39 p.m.
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