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I am about to get a whole bunch of people really mad, but I really don't care. The lousy situation I am about to bring up is your fault in the first place so do something about it. A story about day care centers for kids appeared moments ago at http://www.wral.com/news/local/story/2352377/ It is about parents who actually camp out front of day care centers the night before they open for new registration in order to secure slots for their kids. This situation has apparently become popular in an effort to get one's kids into the "best" day care available. Well, the only competition involving the securing of day care for your kid is how many hours can the father work so that the mother can stay home and properly train her children in a family environment. It's bad enough that parents are willing to tolerate the indoctrination of their kids from first grade onward in government schools, but to dump them off when they are three, four and five years old is pathetic. You had that child and it is your responsibility to raise them. That means you are responsible for giving them the introductory education they need to be successful in school later in life. That takes place at home with a full-time mother. There are very few legitimate circumstances under which I can see a child being in day care for anything other than very short period of time during transient family emergencies. If you can't afford to have them and provide for them, you shouldn't have had them in the first place. And if you can not manage to maintain a stable marriage for at least five years, you shouldn't have gotten married to begin with -- and certainly have not had children. For the most part, day care centers have become dumping grounds for parents who do not have the drive or responsibility to focus on the single most important thing they have ever done, that is, raise a child. Many of those parents are self-centered twits who care more about their own career, lifestyles, material possessions and a host of other things apart from their own children, unwilling to sacrifice even food for themselves in order to raise their child properly. So for those who are "forced" into using day care outside of true emergencies, I ask these questions: Why did you get married before you were financially stable to provide more than adequately for yourselves? Why did you have a child before you could assure that your wife would not have to work at all until the child was in first grade at the minimum? Why did you buy that house, car, TV set, golf clubs, take that vacation or anything else not essential to the raising of your child until he was finished being properly trained? Why, even if you made a grievous error in judgement and had children before you could properly afford them, do you not have ANY relatives able to take care of their own family members during the day? That's what grandparents used to be for. Why would you even consider leaving the most precious thing in your life with complete strangers in an supposed learning enviroment that you do not completely control? And even in the most extrenuating of circumstances...if your spouse dies, why did you not have sufficient life insurance? If someone gets sick, why did you not have excellent health insurance and disability before you had your kid? If the father loses his job, why did you not have enough saved up to last you several years before you had that child? And for the women...why did you marry that drunk, druggie, gambling, semi-violent, womanizing man to start with thinking you were going to change him? If you claim you didn't know, then why didn't you wait long enough before getting married so that his true colors would come out? And once trapped, why did you think it would be a good idea to have a child to "hold" your family together? Why did you marry the guy who had trouble getting out of high school, unable to hold down any job for any length of time, and think that your life would be happy and settled? And then have those kids anyway? What is wrong with some of you people? And I'm not even talking about the true welfare scum and scam artists of our society of which there are far too many. I'm talking about those who should have known better. The destruction of society begins with the destruction of the family. So quit destroying your family. Step up to the plate and do what you are supposed to do as a parent -- raise your child.