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Father of domestic homicide victim wants others to learn from his loss

Posted November 11, 2014
Updated November 12, 2014

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— The father of a 22-year-old woman who police say was killed by her boyfriend last week had some advice for those in negative and violent relationships.

Steve Puryear was among dozens who gathered in Fuquay-Varina’s South Park Tuesday night to remember Britny Jordan Puryear, who was killed Nov. 6 after she was shot in the head. Her boyfriend, Logan Connail McLean, was arrested and charged with killing her, then getting rid of the gun.

Neighbors said the couple, who have a 4-month-old son together, were very sweet but argued frequently.

Those who gathered Tuesday remembered Puryear as a friendly person.

"She was crazy, happy, bubbly. She loved everybody," said Kayla Perkinson, who organized the event. "A lot of us, especially since this happened, have wondered, what if I called her one last time?"

Steve Puryear talked about his daughter in front of a sea of candles.

“Britny was the sweetest little girl growing up,” he said. “She liked to sing a dance and have fun. She was such a beautiful young lady and she had a heart of gold. She was the sweetest and most loving person I have ever known."

Puryear said his daughter felt alone during the last moments of her life. He had some advice for those in negative relationships.

"If your boyfriend is isolating you from your family and your friends, leave him," he said. "If he hits you or hurts you, leave him immediately. He does not love you. Leave him before it is too late. Tell a parent, tell the police. Now our hearts are broken and filled with sadness and anger. Our days and nights are filled with tears."

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  • peace2u Nov 12, 2014

    There are wonderful shelters in Raleigh that will offer support and help people leave bad relationships...whether straight or same sex. All you have to do is make the call.

  • Nan Toppin Nov 12, 2014
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    my pastor once said, 'If you are a woman in a relationship with a man who does not honor you, turn around and run.' I think it's good advice.

  • USMC Vet Nov 12, 2014

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    Awww, how brave of you to share your story. So blessed you got out. I pray you are now flourishing and are happy.

    I was one too, and you're right about it being sneaky. I had everything before him - a business, a beautiful home, a nice car. Slowly but surely, through his bad behavior and his manipulations, I lost it all and was captive to his whims and tantrums until I managed to save/hide enough money to get myself a cheap little car and RUN.

    Prayers for all who are in this situation. Prayers for them to get out SAFELY!!!

  • USMC Vet Nov 12, 2014

    "'If your boyfriend is isolating you from your family and your friends, leave him,' he said. 'If he hits you or hurts you, leave him immediately. He does not love you. Leave him before it is too late. Tell a parent, tell the police.'"

    PLEASE!!!

    No one needs a significant other of any kind in their life who hurts them. It's better to be alone than to be hurt and afraid.

    PLEASE GET HELP TO LEAVE THEM!!!

    PLEASE!!!

  • geraniumposey Nov 12, 2014

    Now let's hear from Logan's mother. How does she account for bringing up this boy to be a domestic abuser?

  • Janni Cone Nov 12, 2014
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    My heart ached for Mr. Puryear last night, but I also had such tremendous respect for him for shedding light on this tragedy and probably saving lives in the future. you all re right - domestic violence in sneaky and insidious. it's gradual and erodes the spirit of the victim until he / she barely recognizes himself / herself.

  • jackaroe123 Nov 12, 2014

    Wow, thanks for sharing your story, Anne-O.

    It is right to recommend victims get out of these relationships. It is important to remember that that's much easier said than done. There were a lot of comments last week that I thought blamed the late Ms. Puryear for not getting out of that relationship. That's not very empathetic, and it likely serves to silence others who feel embarrassed to have a similar struggle in a potentially dangerous relationship.

  • Claytonmomof2 Nov 12, 2014

    Such a sad situation. My thoughts and prayers are with the family today, and the little one in the years to come. Domestic violence is so sneaky, and I'm sure this young lady thought this would never happen to her. Proud of the father for drawing attention to domestic violence - I can only imagine how difficult all of this is for him and his family.

  • Anne Walker Nov 12, 2014
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    My best thoughts are with this family as they struggle to make sense of a dreadful situation.

    Like thousands of women in the US, I could have been Britny Puryear, and the years since leaving my brutal ex-boyfriend have made it clear to me that that sort of violence is sneaky. I never would have guessed during the first nine months we were together, that he would ever lay a hand on anyone in anger, let alone me. The isolation and manipulation were gradual, almost imperceptible at times. The control became uglier as my self-esteem plummeted.

    I was fortunate to have left when I did, and I did so with the help of women and men who knew strength and gentleness. When a former POW in Vietnam referred to me as having been "taken hostage," I was able to hear ---without hyperbole or minimization--- that I had come out of a situation that was far more dire than I had been able to face at the time.

    Mr. Puryear's compassion is remarkable. May he find compassion, too.