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Doing this one thing will give you a solid marriage, and it only takes a few minutes

Posted May 29

We all long for a perfect marriage. We want to get along with our spouse every day, we never want to fight and we most certainly want all of our life goals and priorities to line up perfectly with one another.

Unfortunately, ambitions can get messy. You are building a life with a person who is different from you. They were raised differently and experienced different things than you did. You may be different, but, through all of this, you still love each other and will do anything to fight for your marriage.

The secret to success

Unfortunately, there isn’t one sure way to perfect your marriage, because a perfect marriage is truly impossible. However, preparing your marriage to be rock-solid is as easy as sitting down with your spouse or fiance and make a marriage mission statement.

What it is and why it’s important

A mission statement consists of values and goals to shape something into the best version of itself. A marriage mission statement will allow you and your spouse to determine what is most important to you, what you value in your relationship and an overall goal of what you want your marriage to be.

Having a marriage mission statement ensures that you and your spouse are on the same page when it comes to important issues. It can also be a fail-safe for when your marriage is suffering or when you forget what you're both trying to accomplish as a couple.

How to create a mission statement

Start by writing down everything that comes to mind when you think of marriage. Consider your individual values, what your ideal marriage looks like and what strengths you each bring to the relationship. Think of ways each of you could improve.

After you do this, choose what parts you both agree are most important to your marriage. Use these values to set proactive goals to help you become a better couple, great parents, true friends and a loving family. Setting goals is a vital way to keep your relationship progressing throughout life. Refer back to these goals frequently to see where you’re doing awesome and where you can improve.

Ideas of what to include

Have a few questions in mind that you and your spouse could answer. These could include, “What do you like most about our marriage?” “How is our marriage unique?” and if you aren’t married yet, “Why are we getting married?” The answers to these questions can lead to ideas that will form your mission statement.

Your statement could include your values and beliefs, why your marriage is worth fighting for and the ultimate goal that you and your spouse are aiming for in your marriage.

This being said, there isn’t one right way to create a marriage mission statement. Yours will should be different from another couple's, because no marriage is the same. This mission statement should be strictly customized only to your marriage.

Look at it every day, and stick to it

Print your mission statement and put it somewhere you'll see every day. Tape it to the fridge, frame it and hang it on a wall or set it as the lock screen on your phone if you have to. Be certain you and your spouse are referring to your mission statement as often as you can. If done right, sticking to your mission statement will help you and your spouse work toward your goals as a couple and strengthen your relationship.

Marriage is wonderful and awesome, but it’s not easy. Having a mission statement will help your marriage become the best it can possibly be.

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