Couple accuses wedding guest of not being 'generous enough' with gift

Posted May 16, 2016

UNITED KINGDOM — It’s safe to say there won’t be a baby gift.

A wedding guest in the U.K. was mortified when she received an email from the bride and groom chastising her for not gifting them enough money, and requesting she supplement her original check with another one. The woman — a former colleague of the bride — was completely “gobsmacked” and quickly turned to the internet for advice, the Guardian reports.

She posted about her dilemma on a Mumsnet forum, describing her initial reaction when she opened her inbox to find the email in question.

According to the woman, the couple began the email pleasantly enough — commenting on how good it was to see everyone at their wedding. But that’s where the pleasantries ended.

“We were surprised that your contribution didn’t seem to match the warmth of your good wishes on our big day,” they wrote.

The guest said she couldn’t believe what she was reading — the couple had asked for cash gifts, and she felt her L100 contribution was “decent." To add insult to injury, the couple went on to suggest she correct her error.

“In view of your own position, if you wanted to send any adjustment it would be thankfully received,” the email reads.

The woman mentions in her post that the couple may have caught wind of a recent inheritance she received and hoped to get a bigger piece of it.

“Please, anyone, what do I do now?” the woman wrote. “I’ve never come across anything like this before and still can’t quite believe they’ve done it — but since they have, should I reply, ring them, ignore it or what?”

The post generated more than 1,000 comments — most in full support of the frustrated guest. Some commenters suggested she cancel the check, others said they’d offer up a piece of their mind.

“Whatever the circumstance that is very rude, one commenter wrote. “As to whether or not the gift was appropriate: Did you bowl up with a partner and six children and proceed to demolish the buffet and free bar? No? Then L100 is a generous gift to an ex-colleague.”

Ultimately, the woman responded to the email with a single sentence:

“I assume this was some sort of mistake?”

Not surprisingly, she hasn’t heard back from the bride and groom.

Jessica Ivins is a content manager for and contributor to the Motherhood Matters section.


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