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Childless couple becomes parents of 4 overnight

Posted November 14
Updated November 15

Adopting four children under the age of two — all within 24 hours — is not how most soon-to-be parents picture it happening. But for high school sweethearts Jeremy and Kaley Carling, it was a dream come true.

"Ever since I was a teenager, and I knew what fostering and adoption was, I wanted that to be a part of my life whether I was able to have children biologically or not,” Kaley Carling told ABC News.

Unfortunately, she was diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis and lupus, which can pose health risks during pregnancy for mother and baby.

"We tried to conceive for a couple of years, however, due to my lupus and RA, that road was proving to be extremely hard on my body," Carling told Parents.com. "My husband and I decided to take a break from 'trying,' and to focus more on foster and/or adoption."

Optimistically, they started down the road of adoption. They began working with a mother, but their hope for a growing family was halted by tragedy.

"The mother changed her mind right before she was due, after months of us supporting her financially, emotionally and taking her to doctor appointments," Carling told Parents.com. "It was devastating, and we mourned having lost her."

Carling told ABC News that the mother was arrested for child sex trafficking in August, at which point she and her husband did what they could to gain custody of the daughter and her 2-year-old brother. Despite their attempts, the children were given to a relative.

Following the closure of the custody case, the family member and the baby were both murdered. Carling and her husband were devastated.

"It was a roller coaster ride that wouldn't end," Carling told ABC News.

The Carlings continued working with the childcare system, hoping for a miracle.

"We had room in our house, we had love to give and we had the resources to help provide a home for children, even if it was going to be short term," Carling told InsideEdition.com. "We wanted to make a difference in some way while we waited for our family."

Soon enough that miracle came in the form of four little girls. Haven and Indie became temporary additions to the Carling family through foster care last August. To their surprise, the children didn’t stop there. That same day, they got a call from a mother carrying twins due the following January.

Carling and her husband flew to Arizona to meet their new twin girls, Sunny and Weslie.

"It was extremely difficult to be in another state, missing Haven and Indie, with one newborn with us, and one in the NICU," Carling told Parents.com. "We couldn't take Wes to the NICU to see Sunny, so my husband and I spent the majority of our three to four weeks in Arizona apart, one with Wes, the other with Sunny, then switch."

Once she could leave, the family of four reunited, all together at last.

"We brought the twins home to 5-month-old Indie and 18-month-old Haven,” Carling told Parents.com. “Crazy, to say the least! We went through a can of formula per day until Indie turned one!"

Carling said it took a good six months to get into a routine.

"Now when I look back at it, I'm like, 'What was I thinking? That's insane,'" Carling told InsideEdition.com. "We didn't even really have to talk about it for very long, we just knew it was right. We were going to move forward with everything. When you have had so many failed adoptions, that's the way you start to think. Now, we can't even imagine life without the girls.”

The Carlings officially adopted all four girls on Oct. 19 and Oct. 20. Carling has become a stay-at-home mom to care for their new family.

"I think it's important for one of us to be home with them," Carling told InsideEdition.com. "Our focus is on them and giving them the love and attention they need individually and as a group of sisters."

Growing their family so quickly has definitely had its challenges.

"Some days are incredibly difficult," Carling told Parents.com. "We've gone from two incomes to one, added four more mouths to feed and have significant debt from the private adoption for the twins, but our prayers were truly answered and our hearts are full. We are so happy to finally be a family."

A family member created a GoFundMe page for the Carlings to raise money for adoption fees. Any additional money raised will go to St. Jude’s Children’s Hospital.

Ainsley Layland is a freelance writer with a passion for interesting stories. She has been writing about everything under the sun since she graduated in 2013. Apart from writing she loves new adventures, spending time outside and making dessert.

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