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Are you destroying your marriage by not fulfilling these 6 basic needs of your husband?

Posted July 16

6 basic needs of your man — are you fulfilling them? (Deseret Photo)

There are many components that go into a long-lasting and satisfying marriage: putting the other first, daily compliments, displaying public and private signs of affection and strong communication. It is a constant battle to put in the necessary work and care needed to maintain a strong relationship with your spouse.

With a long list of elements and requirements, how do you know if you are fulfilling all the roles and needs of your husband?

Below are six specific needs a man desires to have filled according to author Jordan Gray and psychologist Willard Harley Jr.

1. Sincere respect

One of the greatest needs a man has is to feel genuinely respected. A man who feels like his thoughts and actions are respected feels more secure in his relationship. Listening to and fully processing exactly what he says is essential in creating a foundation of strong and effective communication. Men interpret respect as a form of love.

2. Physical desire

A man needs to feel physically desired, plain and simple. Hand-holding, kisses on the cheek, cuddling and hugs are all strong indications that you are invested and willing to put your man first. Public displays of affection as well as one-on-one time spent being intimate are vital to fulfilling your man’s need to be physically desired.

3. Emotional desire

Believe it or not, your man needs to feel emotionally desired too. Although men like to feel like the emotional rock in the relationship, sometimes their emotions need to be addressed and taken care of. Men are taught at a young age to squander their emotions and to not appear weak at all costs. Providing a safe space for them to vent and expose their emotions draws the two of you closer together.

4. Adventurous spirit

Your man needs a person to get out and experience life with. Taking the time to try new things and embrace activities out of your comfort zone allows the two of you to make memories together. Go for a hike, travel to Bora Bora, go on a long drive or simply star-gaze in a local field. Create a youthful and energetic spirit that your husband and you can act on.

5. Respected role

Your man likes to be reminded you need him to be your man. The constant assurance that you need him and that you respect his importance as a husband, father, provider and equal is a way to strengthen and stabilize your marriage.

6. Encouraging support

Men have sensitive and strong egos. They need to be reminded daily they are appreciated and encouraged. You can never have too many compliments exchanged within a relationship — the more the merrier.

Hannah Rose is a story-telling enthusiast that finds joy in sharing insights and human experience. Connecting the world through written verse is a passion that drives her to pursue her journalistic endeavors.

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