Are you a mentally mature woman? Ask these five questions to find out
Posted July 31
It’s been said that wisdom and maturity come with age. However, I believe maturity comes to those who are willing to see the world as it is and appreciate the people in it. A mentally mature person has an understanding of right and wrong, based on rational thoughts instead of feelings. Here are five traits of a mentally mature woman:
1. Do you know your limits?
Mature women know their limits. They know when to stop, when to start and what's appropriate for the situation. They have profound insights, not because of age, but because of their life experiences.
A popular example would be an active participant in social media. While an immature person would post only for attention, a mature person knows there’s no point in trying to impress other people or give them an impression of a make-believe life they actually don’t have.
2. Do you benefit from constructive criticism?
We enjoy compliments as much as we dread criticism. It's normal to be offended from a disapproving comment - that's just part of human nature. However, how you deal with it is what differentiates you as a mentally mature person.
A mature woman has positive attitude and appreciates constructive criticism. She asks, “How does this make me a better person? What are the things I could learn from this?” and so on. This person also appreciates compliments.
A mentally mature person knows when someone needs guidance, and she doesn’t hold back from helping. However, she doesn’t forgo the other person’s best interest. Instead of being harsh, she communicates in a way that's constructive and helpful, making the person become better.
3. Do you invest in long-term plans and commitments?
I believe this is one of the most overlooked traits because people love being spontaneous. However, sensible people look at their resources (money, time, effort) and consider them valuable commodities, so they make the best out of everything.
A mature person looks at things with the end in sight. When a man considers a relationship, he looks at women who are wife-material. When he finds a potential life partner, he gives affection, time and attention.
When a wife-material woman considers what to spend her money on, she looks at education, houses and relationships instead of bags, shoes and clothes. She needs security, so she prepares for her future.
4. Do you decide based on rational thinking instead of feelings?
Reality motivates decision-making - not feelings. A highly sensible person is aware of their emotions, and knows emotional decisions are unreliable. They know how emotions can affect the situation, and make it look more serious than it is.
Instead, she would withdraw from the scene (if needed), think deeply, ask for advice, consider all findings and then decide. As much as they can, these people overcome their strong feelings so their hazy minds can clear out.
5. Do you keep your promises?
Mentally mature people keep their promises. Although some promises are occasionally broken, people see their efforts to live up to what they said. They also dread breaking a promise, but they’re strong enough to face the consequences.
That’s why these people don’t easily make promises. They value their reputation and the people who look up to them. They value their commitments because, at some point, they expect the same from other people.
It takes a lot of adjustment, mindset shifts and firsthand experiences to gain mental maturity. If you continue progressing toward these five things, you’ll notice changes in yourself, your world views and the people around you.
Abigail A. Sabijon is a Literature graduate and is currently one of the editors of scoopfed.com. Contact her at email@example.com.