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Amanda Lamb: Letting go

Posted April 21, 2013

For all of us, this past week will be one we will never forget — witnessing the most egregious act of terrorism on American soil since Sept. 11.

If you are a news junkie like me, or even if you’re not, it was impossible to escape the images of carnage plastered across our television screens and computers day and night.

But for me, there is another reason that this week is significant. April 20, 2013, marks exactly one year to the day that my mother walked into the emergency room on the way to work in a suit and high heels and found out she had a brain tumor. It is a day which changed her life, my life and my family’s life forever.

For that reason, I have thought a lot about her this week. I have also thought about how she would have reacted to the previous week’s horrific events. I wondered the same thing after the shooting in Newtown.

In my heart, I know she would have been devastated, helplessly watching the news coverage and calling me every day to discuss it. My mother was a kind and compassionate woman who intelligently acknowledged that evil existed, but personally could never truly understand how anyone could harbor such ill will towards another human being.

Unfortunately, my experiences as a journalist for 24 years have given me more than my fair share of insight into evil. Still, like everyone else in America, I have been dumbfounded watching the events in Boston unfold.

So, I tried to imagine what my mother would have said the solution is to all of this tragedy and residual despair. I believe she would have told me that we don’t have the power to stop it, but that we do have the power to love one another, and that’s the answer. It’s that simple. Amanda Lamb and her friends and family participate in the âAngels Among Usâ 5k to raise money for the Preston Robert Tisch Brain Tumor Center at Duke where her mother was treated.

To that end, a team of my family and friends participated Saturday in the Angels Among Us 5K in order to raise money for the Preston Robert Tisch Brain Tumor Center at Duke where my mother was treated. It was a fitting way to honor her memory and commemorate the day that will forever be etched in my mind. I so appreciated the family and friends who participated on my team.

And as I rounded the traffic circle during the race and headed towards magnificent Duke Chapel framed by tiny white wispy clouds against an emerging blue sky, I could feel tears starting to well up in the corners of my eyes beneath my sunglasses. Instinctively, I wiped them away. In my head I heard my mother’s voice telling me to let the pain go because you have many miles left ahead of you…

Amanda is the mom of two, a reporter for WRAL-TV and the author of several books including three on motherhood. Find her here on Mondays.


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  • cjnall Apr 23, 2013

    Amanda, your mom was a very wise woman. No, we cannot stop the evil in this world, but we can make a difference by loving all those around us. We cannot change what happened in Boston or Newtown, but we can smile at a stranger, hold a door, give a hug, all sorts of little things to be a positive difference every day!

  • khoggard Apr 23, 2013

    Thank you Amanda. I know exactly what you are feeling. My dad was diagnosised with a glioblastoma brain tumor in Oct. 2010 & we lost him on March 8, 2011. I miss him so much everyday as we were very close. I even think that I "see" him sometimes as a shadow watching over me. He was also an EMT/firefighter for 30+ years. I wonder the same things about him. What would he have thought about all this? He loved to help people. I guess he passed that on to me as now whenever I hear of something disasterous like this, no matter where it is, I want to help. I want to be able to do whatever I can to help those affected, just like he would. His legacy of helping lives on through me as I try to help people everyday in any way that I can. I do it for him. Thank you for sharing.

  • nursevickie93 Apr 22, 2013

    Amanda, I just want to tell you how much I enjoyed reading the touching story about the journey you and your mother have taken over the past year and are continuing to travel. You are such a great writer. I laughed and cried with your stories. I never had a mother that I was close with so I really enjoyed your stories. God bless you. When my grandma died I felt like I had a huge hole in my heart but someone mentioned a Bible verse that says "God mends the brokenhearted" and I know God will mend yours.

  • melodylink Apr 22, 2013

    Beautiful. Thanks for sharing this with us.

  • Terkel Apr 22, 2013

    Amanda, thank you for this wisdom.

  • jennifer23 Apr 22, 2013

    beautiful tribute~

  • bluebird1075 Apr 21, 2013

    Amanda, I know how you feel. I lost my mother on Dec. 21, 2012. She had suffered from Alzheimer's for over 8 years. However, at the age of 85 she was diagnosed with breast cancer. Not a day goes by that I don't think of her. I choose to honor her by remembering the good times we had together. You and I were truly blessed to have had the mothers we had.