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Amanda Lamb: Her own person

Posted January 12, 2014

I am constantly amazed as a parent how our children are in some ways our mini-me’s and in other ways completely unique individuals with talents that far surpass their parents’.

The first time you see your children do something you could never do — run a mile in seven minutes, sing a solo on stage, spike a volleyball— is the moment you first truly realize their individuality in a way that is exhilarating as a parent. That’s my kid? That’s my kid!

As my oldest daughter turns 14 this week, I am discovering more and more of these moments. At the risk of embarrassing her, I am so proud of her accomplishments both in the classroom and on the volleyball court, which has become her new passion.

It’s not so much what she does, but the fact that she is willing to try new things and work hard to excel at them even when she is not immediately successful. This, along with a poise and confidence that belies her 14 years, makes me wonder where she came from sometimes. Amanda Lamb's older daughter

She looks like me, and we share many of the same qualities. But, at the same time, she is a much better version of me. I guess Darwin was right …

I look forward to many more of these moments with each passing year. Instead of thinking the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree, I instead will be thinking, how did she ever learn to do that?

I am reminded of a quote from Eleanor Roosevelt: “You must do the thing you think you cannot do.”

And she does. Happy Birthday sweetheart …

Amanda is the mom of two, a reporter for WRAL-TV and the author of several books including three on motherhood. Find her here on Mondays.


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  • lec02572 Jan 13, 2014

    Well said Amanda. Our children are like us in many ways, but different in an equal number of ways. I think that is one of the things that make watching your children grow is most enjoyable. My children are grown now and I still love watching them grow as individuals.

  • pingmanreturns Jan 13, 2014

    Thank you Amanda! So true!

  • Amomoftwo Jan 13, 2014

    I am sure your daughter is mortified with your comments but I love that you are so proud of her! I can "hear" the awe in the tone of your column...and think it's wonderful!

  • rrmrbrkr Jan 12, 2014

    You have articulated what I have been wondering for years. My daughter actually works for WRAL (Kristin) and I am amazed that she is able to lack the inhibitions that block me. I know you will see great things in the future from your kids as well. Thanks!