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Amanda Lamb: Christmas links

Posted December 7, 2014

Remember those cute handwritten Christmas lists when your children were little, sometimes written in crayon, sometimes illegible? Often their desires were very specific like pink sparkly pony. Usually, the list was generated from an advertisement they saw on television or in a toy catalogue that came in the mail.

These days my daughters’ Christmas lists are high tech and high dollar. They come complete with links that allow me to purchase the items with a few simple keystrokes. While it's no doubt more efficient and less time-consuming, there is something a little sad about not personally shopping for their gifts. Plus, there’s absolutely no element of surprise.

“Mom, only get me what’s on my list? OK?” they have admonished me more than once.

One parent recently told me her daughter not only sent her the links, but already had the gift items in the virtual shopping cart so all the mother had to do was to click on “buy.”

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not a big fan of shopping of any kind, let alone Christmas shopping. But I am a fan of finding something thoughtful, something special that shows the person exactly how you feel.

Today I gave my younger daughter money to buy Christmas gifts at the annual school holiday shop. After school she got into the car with her bag, polka-dotted tissue paper overflowing.

“Did you get any Christmas gifts?”

“Yes,” she beamed.

“For your sister?”

“No, for you,” she replied, hugging the bag close to her body lest I try to snag a peek inside.

At least one of us will be surprised on Christmas morning …

Amanda is the mom of two, a reporter for WRAL-TV and the author of several books including some on motherhood. Find her here on Mondays.


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  • dubious Dec 8, 2014

    You're lucky they still want actual gifts. It won't be long before the list shortens to "Just money, please."

  • NCCoachSE Dec 8, 2014

    What kid didn't give mom and dad a list, but if I would have said only what's on the list I would have received none of it...
    I tell my child to be specific where needed but to give me ideas as to general items . Sometimes what they want is given sometimes not but what ever it is better be appreciated(not complained about or admonish me at least) or next year socks and underwear and not the kind they like.

  • lec02572 Dec 8, 2014

    I must be getting old. I'm not into this "only get me what's on my list." My daughter is 26, is married, and has her own new baby and I heard this from her in the past. I always liked to be surprised to see what I got on Christmas day. Today, its kinda lost some importance if I know everything I'm getting. Oh well, I guess its the new generation in too big of a hurry to really enjoy Christmas.

  • Ashley Porter Dec 8, 2014
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    Yep, links with pictures from my daughter. Thankfully she wants the items personalized so there is a bit of "our touch" to them. My son simply said "Mom, you know what I like". Well that is SO helpful!

  • Amomoftwo Dec 8, 2014

    My oldest sent me the links to the items she wanted and also COUPON codes to use! least she's a fan of Faye Prosser and SmartShopper!