9 ways to keep flirting in your marriage to keep him head over heels in love
Posted April 19
Flirting, (like many things) changes once you’re married. The chase is over and you’ve both won, but that doesn’t mean flirting has to stop. Be clever and creative to keep the flames burning.
These nine tips will keep things fresh, and he’ll be falling in love with you all over again:
1. Do what you did when you were dating
Keep the spark alive by revisiting activities you did when you were falling in love. Recreate your first date or visit the place you shared your first kiss and take a walk down memory lane.
2. Make the normal, mundane things exciting
Put a little spice into everyday life by adding a little spontaneity. For example, give him a mystery date experience and blindfold him the second he comes home. Take him to the dining room and remove his blindfold to reveal his favorite home-cooked meal. After dinner, blindfold him again and lead him to the bathroom for a hot shower. When he finishes, blindfold him once more and take him into the living room to watch a movie. He’ll love the mystery and excitement you add to mundane life.
3. Send heartwarming texts
Always let him know he's on your mind. Send him a flirty text or leave him a note in his wallet. Write something simple like, “Hey sexy man, I love you so much,” “I’m so glad you’re in my life,” or “I think you’re a wonderful man.”
4. Do something you wouldn’t normally do
Break from routine and surprise him with a gift for no reason. Your gift can be as simple as bringing him a nice breakfast while he's still in bed (this is especially nice if he normally gets up earlier than you).
5. Greet him and give him your full attention
The second he walks in the door after work, drop everything you’re doing and give him your full attention. Greet him with a big hug and kiss and ask how his day was. If he gets home before you, bolt through the door, head straight for him and shower him with kisses.
6. Make a point of something you did for him
Sometimes men are oblivious, so pointing out something you did specifically for him will turn up the heat. For example, I hate shaving my legs, so when I do shave them, it’s usually for my husband’s sake. I stick my leg out for him to feel and say, “Look what I did for you” with a nod and a wink.
7. Don’t talk about chores
That is, don’t talk about them all the time. There is always a to-do list in your head, but bringing up work or chores too often can come across as nagging and keeps you from focusing on your time together.
8. Give him “the look”
You know the “look.” When you make eye contact with him with a cheeky smile and a mischievous wink. When you’re out in public, in a crowded room or across at the dinner table, put your charm to work with a playful expression.
9. Constantly break the touch boundary
Give him kisses, put your hand on his knee, play with his hair, scratch his back and whisper sweet nothings in his ear. Every time you touch him, you promote physical intimacy and strengthen your emotional bond.
The best way to test your flirty efforts is by watching your spouse’s reactions. Try to make him laugh, smile or blush. Don’t forget that humor can bring a charming and flirtatious air to your relationship as well. It’s the small and simple gestures that keep sparks flying during every stage of your marriage. So keep up the flirting to remind him why he fell in love with you in the first place.
Kristina Tieken is a publics relations specialist with a love for the fine arts, food and exercise. She enjoys spending time with her husband and family.