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9 things wives secretly want from their husbands

Posted July 15

Many women can be hard to read. They won’t always tell you everything they want in a relationship — maybe they are shy, trying to not nag you or don’t think they should have to ask in the first place.

But just because she's keeping quiet, doesn't mean there aren't things that would make her day. Your wife will be floating on cloud nine if you give her these nine things she secretly wants:

1. Compliments

Of course, your wife won’t come up to you and say, “Hey honey, you should give me more compliments. Ready, go.” But there’s not a wife out there who wouldn’t appreciate their husband upping their compliment game. Try to give her praise about a variety of things (go above and beyond “you look nice.”)

2. To feel appreciated

Many wives (especially if they are moms) work so hard every day, but their accomplishments go unnoticed with every dish they scrub and every screaming child they calm. She needs to hear that her hard work is appreciated and doesn’t go unnoticed — as her husband, that's something you can certainly do.

3. A boyfriend

No, not a boyfriend on the side. Even though you are her husband, she wants you to still act like her boyfriend every so often by flirting, getting excited to do things with her and asking her out on real dates.

4. Have open conversation about intimacy

I’m sure we all know by now that men and women generally differ when it comes to sex. When it comes to happiness in the bedroom for both of you, the more open conversation, the better.

5. Surprises

Even if it’s a small, inexpensive or homemade gift, she’ll absolutely love that you’re thinking about her enough to plan a little surprise. So throw a surprise party on her birthday and whisk her away on an out-of-the-blue trip this weekend.

6. For you to spend less time on your electronics

She probably doesn’t often express her wish for you to spend less time on your phone or playing video games for the sake nagging, but she would really appreciate more time with you away from those distractions. Exit out of social media, turn off the Xbox and do something together, away from electronics to make her day.

7. Meaningful conversations

Too many married couples can be found sitting at restaurant tables silently waiting for their food to arrive. You’re the number one person in her life — out of anyone she knows, she wants to have a meaningful conversation with you most of all. So kill the silence and bring up an interesting topic you heard about earlier, or just tell her about your day. She’ll love it.

8. More listening, less fixing

Sometimes, a girl just needs to vent. Ask her what’s going on, then sit back and listen to her let it all out without interrupting her to make a suggestion. While you might think the best thing to do is think of ways to fix the problem, she might get annoyed that you don’t let her finish explaining the whole situation. It’s best to wait for her to ask you for suggestions.

9. More snuggle time

More often than men, women typically crave the aspects of physical intimacy aside from sex. She’d love if you spent more time snuggling, gave her more hugs and kissed her more often.

Show your wife more love by acknowledging the things she won’t ask you for but wants all the same.

McKenna Park is a staff writer at FamilyShare. She's a happy wife, puppy mama, ice cream addict and film nerd. Contact her at mpark@deseretdigital.com.

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