9 texts that will ruin your relationship
Posted March 7
Texting is simple and fast, but it also can quickly ruin your relationship. Since you can't see someone's facial expressions or hear the tone of their voice, texts can easily be misinterpreted. Texting a "hello, I love you" is fine, but avoid these nine texts for the sake of your relationship:
1. “Well, Julie’s husband...”
Comparing your significant other to another person is always a horrible idea, especially over text. If you are dissatisfied with your relationship, share your feelings and have a discussion — in person. Don’t leave room for misinterpretation over text.
2. “Where have you been?”
When sent over text, your partner will instantly get defensive and wonder if you don’t trust him or her. Even if you meant it to be a casual question, you can't tell how it will be interpreted. Instead, text “Is everything OK? You are later than normal" if you need to know what's up.
3. “Can’t talk right now. Out with the guys/girls.”
But what if it’s an emergency? Your partner will feel like your friendships are more important to you than she or he is. Even if you are in the middle of something, let your spouse know you can still be reached. Texting something like “I’m out with friends right now, did you need something?” lets your partner know they are still your number one priority.
4. “My period is late.”
Ladies, if you think you are pregnant, tell your man in person. Don’t give him a heart attack. If you are playing a joke, don’t. You'll break his trust if you mess around with sensitive things like this.
5. “I guess.”
Passive aggressive much? Just pick yes or no. If you don’t like either of the options, explain why — in person. Passive aggressive behavior is a relationship killer, especially when it happens over text.
6. “We need to talk.”
Break-up texts, or texts that sound like break-up texts are a big no-no. If you have something serious that you need to talk about, always talk in person. There is no reason to scare your partner by sending this text; they'll just worry until they finally get to talk to you.
7. “Here’s what you can look forward to tonight!”
Even if you are sure any racy pictures won't be seen by anyone else... you can’t really be sure. Never send images you wouldn't want everything else to see. That way, you'll avoid sending pictures to the wrong person, or having someone else see them by mistake.
8. “Why haven’t you texted me back yet?”
If you haven’t received a text back, be patient. Don’t blow up your significant other’s phone with a million messages asking why they aren't glued to their phone. You will get a text back when your love can message you back.
9. “Why are you so upset?”
You never want to start an argument via text. If you think your partner is upset, call them or talk in person. Arguments over text never end well especially when discussing a touchy topic. It's best to do this face-to-face.
Be careful to not text anything sensitive and choose to talk in person more. While sweet little texts can improve your connection throughout the day, it is always better to communicate in person about important things.
Stacie Simpson is a journalism student. She loves listening to, gathering and sharing stories and advice to help others improve their quality of life. She spends most of her free time with her husband, ballroom dancing, reading and writing.