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9 signs you love your husband too much

Posted July 27

Can you really love someone too much? (Deseret Photo)

When you find that you depend on your husband for everything, your life completely changes. You can’t imagine happiness without your man. He has become your entire world. You know you love your husband, but have you lost yourself along the way?

While loving your husband is a vital part of marriage, you can become too attached to your spouse.

Not sure if this has happened to you? Here are 9 clear signs that show you love your husband too much:

1.You put him on a pedestal and look down on yourself

Many women put their man on a pedestal and treat him like a king. This is only OK if you are treated as the queen in return. If you continually praise your husband and hold his intelligence above your own, you will end up feeling poorly about yourself. You can love your husband without putting yourself down.

2.You’re always quick to apologize

If your husband is being unreasonable, you automatically apologize and side with him. It may seem easier to do at first, but you are losing yourself every time this happens. You obviously don't want to make your man mad, but he isn't always going to be right. Don't hide your opinions and feelings in apologies just to make him happy.

3.You stop everything for him

When your husband wants a massage and he wants it now, what do you do? You give it to him. You stop what you are doing because you love him, which is fine! But does he stop everything he is doing for you? If you are the one making all of the sacrifices in your marriage, you will lose your own happiness.

4.You ditch your friends

One clear sign that you are showing too much love is when you can’t remember the last time you saw your friends. You can’t imagine leaving your husband for a minute, let alone a whole evening. When your friends call for an evening out, you automatically turn them down. While each couple needs time together, it is equally important for both spouses to maintain friendships.

5.You think he is gone for good

When your husband is gone for longer than 24-hours, you jump to conclusions. It’s just a work meeting a few hours away, but you think he is gone for good. Loving marriages are built on trust and mutual respect for one another. If you love him too much to the point where you can’t function without him, that's a red flag.

6.You let yourself go

If you love your husband too much, you can’t remember the last time you did anything for yourself. Your favorite hobbies, activities, snacks, and everything in between have all been put on hold so that your hubby can get the care you think he needs.

7.You are smothering him

When you smother, it shows you are actually afraid of losing your mister. If you bend to you husband's every whim and buy his favorite things just to make him happy, you are showing how much you care. However, this act of love can quickly turn into overwhelming obsession. Be sure to keep it simple, and only go overboard on special occasions.

8.You try to control everything

Dr. Elizabeth Bates lead a team of psychologists at the University of Cambria in a study questioning 1,104 men and women to determine where the aggression and control starts in relationships. The end result was that women are the main aggressors in the relationship. Loving your husband and controlling their every move are not the same things.

9.You can’t imagine happiness without him

He started to talk about the future and what would happen if he were to die. You couldn’t even handle thinking about it, let alone planning for a ‘just in case’ scenario. It is normal to be prepared for these things so that you aren’t blindsided if it actually happened. If you can’t see yourself ever being happy without them, then you may be too invested.

Can you really love someone too much? Keep these nine points in check to make sure you love your husband and love yourself, too.

Tana is a student with a passion for words. She believes that written words can touch people in ways unimaginable. In her spare time she enjoys singing, hiking, cuddling in a fuzzy blanket, and spending time with her friends and family.

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