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8 ways to know if your man still thinks about his ex

Posted January 12

Whether he was the one who got dumped or did the breaking up himself, there is no way a relationship will work between you two if he still has his ex-girlfriend on his mind. Hopefully the two of you have talked about what happened and he’s been honest when he’s told you “it’s over,” but if you see these eight signs, she is still very much a part of your man’s thoughts:

1. He double taps that picture

Why would he still follow her on social media if he wasn’t still thinking about her? It’s an even bigger red flag if he’s commenting and liking the pictures she is posting. If the relationship was really over, there wouldn’t be any need to keep up with what’s going on her life.

2. He has photos hanging around

Even if your man is sentimental, there isn’t any excuse to keep framed photos of the two of them around the house. Don’t freak out if you find a picture of your man and his ex in some long forgotten box — he’s probably just nostalgic and likes holding onto memories. It’s only a problem if he has these pictures hidden where he can see them when you aren’t looking.

3. He keeps in touch with ‘mutual friends’

Undoubtedly, he and his recent ex-girlfriend made friends he is still close to, and that’s okay. But what isn’t okay are certain types of friends he is still in touch with — such as her old roommates. There’s no reason for him to be hanging around other single women, especially those who are still very close to his ex.

4. He still talks about her

Obviously, this woman was a big part of your mister’s life and it would be unfair to ask him to cut out the period of his life and never speak of it again. The key is to listen to how he is talking about her. Does he bring up memories all the time? Does he talk about how things would have ended up if “something was different”? Talking about fixing the past is a sure sign he’s not over her.

5. He keeps her old text messages

If things are officially over, why would he hang onto those old conversations? He only keeps them to reread their memories and old jokes again. There is no way he can move on if he is holding onto the past like this.

6. He won’t get rid of her stuff

If you ask him to take off his matching concert tee shirt he and his ex got from a concert they went to and he gets defensive, he still is dreaming of his ex-girlfriend. If he still has things from that last relationship but isn’t emotionally connected to them, they are fine to stay. But, the things he lovingly holds onto? Those have got to go.

7. You are competing against her

No woman should put up with a relationship where she is constantly being compared against her boyfriend’s former lover. Don’t ignore the comments he makes about how things would be better if you’d play tennis with him, like so-and-so did. If he is trying to make you more like her, it’s time for you to end things.

8. He won’t commit to you

If you have a feeling there is something holding him back to fully committing to this relationships, his last girlfriend may have something to do with it.

If he can't get over someone, he won't be able to appreciate the relationship he has with you now. If you see these eight signs, it's time for you to break it off and find a man who is ready to love you, not someone else.

Emily is a graduate of Brigham Young University and is a staunch believer in pie as breakfast food. Read more about her travels and tastings at ercummings.blogspot.com.

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