8 tips to help you make the right choices

Posted April 27, 2016
Updated April 28, 2016

Life is filled with choices. These 10 suggestions can help your decision making journey have a happy ending. (Deseret Photo)

Every day, every person on earth is faced with making choices.

Some decisions are trivial and don’t matter much like, "What color should I paint my bathroom?" or, "What should I wear to work today?" Whatever you choose for these types of decisions will pretty much be fine.

But what about the weightier choices, the ones that have lasting consequences? These are the choices that put a lump in your throat. They require much more careful consideration.

Here are a few tips to help you along your choices journey.

1. Define your path

Know what you want in life. This is paramount.

The Cheshire Cat in "Alice In Wonderland" made a great observation when Alice was at a crossroads and asked which way to go. The Cat said, “That depends a good deal on where you want to get to." When Alice responded saying, "I don't much care where," He replied, "Then it doesn't matter which way you go."

It’s imperative to know what you want your life to be. Otherwise, you wander aimlessly, accomplishing little of value. The sooner you figure out your path, the better off you’ll be and you'll have a much easier time making choices that will lead you in that direction.

2. Make sure the choice fits your value system

If you end up doing something contrary to what you believe inside, you will not be happy.

Write down what your values are; then, make sure your choices do not collide with these. If what you choose to do is in harmony with your values, you have a far greater chance of finding success and happiness.

3. Talk about your options with someone you trust

It helps to talk about your hopes and dreams with someone whose opinion you value, someone you trust.

If you are facing a particular decision, sit down with a person who knows about that very thing. Pick their brain. Ask for their suggestions and insights. This can be enormously helpful as you consider your options.

4. Examine the pros and cons of your choice

Take a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle. On one side list the pros — reasons why making a choice would be a good idea. On the other side write the cons — reasons why making this same choice might be a bad idea.

Be honest with yourself when you do this. It will help clear your mind and lead to a wiser decision.

5. Look for warning signs

As you make your decision, look for warning signs. Sometimes when we want something with all our hearts, we can be blinded by our desires. We don’t see the warning signs, and we end up making a wrong choice.

However, with almost all decisions, even big ones, people can start over. Maybe you graduated with a major but now don’t like the work it led to. You’re not stuck. You can change your mind. Go back for a second degree or look for a job out of that pocket. Try something different.

Few things are ever set in concrete. Even sins can be repented of.

6. Take your time

Don’t rush into an important decision. Take the time to study it out. The Internet is full of information. Books in the library are crying out to help you. It will be worth the effort and will lead you to a right choice for you in the end.

7. Follow your gut feelings

Sometimes you get a feeling about something and you can’t quite explain it, but you just know it’s right for you. Or wrong. Follow those feelings. They are often based on former experiences that taught you something important. Learn from your past experiences. There is a spirit inside each of us that guides us in a certain direction. Don’t ignore it.

One woman, who ignored these feelings, admitted she had a strong impression not to marry the man she did. She ended up divorced and vowed to follow her feelings from then on.

8. Don’t be afraid to make a decision

If you follow the above nine suggestions, you will be more confident when making important choices in your life. Even if you make mistakes sometimes, you will be closer to knowing what’s right for you.

Educator Robert K. Greenleaf said, “On an important decision one rarely has 100% of the information needed for a good decision no matter how much one spends or how long one waits. And, if one waits too long, he has a different problem and has to start all over. This is the terrible dilemma of the hesitant decision maker.”

Don’t be afraid — make your decision and move forward.

Gary Lundberg is a licensed marriage and family therapist. Joy is a writer. Together they author books on relationships. See their new .99 e-book "Wake-Up Call: What Every Husband Needs to Know" on Their website is


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