8 signs you're treated the way you deserve in a relationship
Posted May 25, 2016
Being in a relationship is hard work.
We go through our lives seeking the perfect one out, only to be mistreated and become broken hearted.
Sometimes it can seem that we never get the love we put out, and it is super frustrating.
But the great thing about relationships is when you find one that is actually really good, you know it is really good.
Without even realizing it you can be so incredibly happy with a person and have such a great relationship, which shows that you are being treated right for once.
So here are 8 signs that you are finally being treated the way you deserve in a relationship, meaning this one is meant to last.
1. You never wonder about the relationship
What is the greatest part of being in a relationship when you are actually being treated right? Never having to wonder if you actually are being treated right.
You also don’t have to wonder if he loves you enough or if you love him enough, whether he is happy or if you are happy, because you both just are.
You know it and you can feel it, and it is super comforting.
2. They never disappear on you
There is a common phrase used nowadays when referring to your significant other just suddenly disappearing, and it’s called being “ghosted.” The term is just as scary as it sounds, because it means that person just literally disappears without notice, leaving the other person in the relationship hurt and confused.
When you are being treated well in your relationship there is never any worry of this ghosting, you know that no matter what you can work things out and also talk them out. They are clear with their thoughts and feeling and you are too.
You can both be secure in knowing you will completely be there for each other 100 percent of the time.
3. You can be vulnerable with them, and it actually makes you closer
Being vulnerable is scary, especially within a relationship.
It’s like turning yourself inside out and revealing the things you don’t want just anybody to see.
But when you are in a good relationship this comes easily, it brings you even closer together.
You know everything about each other; the good, the bad, and the ugly, but it only seems to make the love you have grow even more.
4. There is more than just physical attraction
Physical attraction is an important aspect of a lasting relationship, but it really should only be one component of it.
Someone who treats you right lets you know this, that they love your intellect, thoughts, and opinions just as much as anything else about you.
5. But that physical attraction is definitely there
Just as mentioned before it’s not the most important part of your relationship, but it should definitely be present as well.
When you are being treated well they will definitely show appreciation for all the assets you have to offer, because it houses the mind and the soul of the person they love with all of their hearts.
6. They don’t just listen to you, they HEAR you
People talk all the time, but do we really listen?
You know that you are with the right person when they don’t just listen to you, they hear you.
This means that they know what’s actually behind the things you say, even if you don’t know yourself. They remember the things you say and will periodically ask about them. They look you in the eye when you talk and not at their phone.
7. You are comfortable having a life outside the relationship
Because you are being treated right, you are secure with your relationship.
That security allows you to be completely comfortable doing your own thing every once in a while and the same goes with your man, and this creates an even healthier relationship.
That week long fellowship you got in London? Or that ski trip he takes with his best friend? You each will take those opportunities and support each other doing them, all the while knowing they will be there when you return.
8. You simply feel loved every single day
When you are treated the way you deserve, you feel completely loved every day.
Even in the times you are apart, working or going to school, in the back of your mind you know that when you see each other you will see the love in their eyes and feel it in your hearts as well.
Each of you is never afraid to express how you feel, and you do it as frequently as possible.
The relationship where you are finally treated the way you deserve is the relationship that will last forever. And you are completely good with that.
Tamsyn Valentine is part of the content team at FamilyShare.com. She graduated with a degree in communication with an emphasis in public relations and journalism. Tamsyn has written and edited for Scroll, BYU-Idaho's newspaper.