7 ways you are wounding your husband without realizing it
Posted July 11, 2016
1. Giving him mixed signals
When you answer him with “fine,” what is that implying? That you will do what he asks but you aren’t happy about it? Men are particularly good with expressing how they really feel about something and not being cryptic. He will be grateful if you tell him how you feel in the first place, so he doesn’t have to wonder why you are in a bad mood later. If he doesn’t know your true feelings, he will blame himself for your unhappiness.
2. Being critical
Yes, it’s true; men enjoy compliments as much as women. Constantly criticizing all the things he does wrong is bad news, especially when you put him down in front of others. He may not express it, but your words sincerely hurt him. His good qualities surely outnumber the bad. Focus on the things he is doing right instead of the wrong. Pay him a sincere compliment to boost his confidence instead of shedding light on his failures.
3. Comparing him to others
If the question “how come you never do that stuff for me?” ever wants to come out of your mouth, swallow it. Don’t compare your husband to your friend’s husband, or to the love interest in your favorite romantic comedy. Out of all the fish in the sea, he chose you. He loves you. Everyone shows their love in different ways, and by comparing him to someone else, you are making him feel like he isn’t good enough for you.
4. Bringing up the old stuff
There is no reason to bring up the past. It is called the past for a reason. It should stay there. When you are disagreeing, do not bring something up that has long since been buried, it only brings painful memories and guilt back to the table. No one benefits from it.
5. Constant nagging
If you constantly remind him over and over again of something he needs to do, it will backfire. Nagging especially injures your husband when he already has a lot on his plate. Instead of badgering him over and over, offer your help with the other tasks that need finishing and he will get to it sooner.
6. Complaining often
He wants to protect and provide for you. He is doing the best he can to make you happy, and if you constantly complain, you are implying that he is not measuring up to your expectations. He carries the blame if you are not happy. Be grateful for the things he does provide for you and for the time you spend together.
7. Forgetting to appreciate him
Appreciate your husband and show him that appreciation often. It is easy to go through life day by day and forget all of the selfless effort he puts in to your relationship and providing for his family. Daily responsibilities can grow heavy, and although he might not complain about how tired he is, he will be motivated through your sincere actions of appreciation. Shower him with your love and remember to thank him for all he does for you.