7 things most wives wish their husbands understood better
Posted October 17, 2016
Let’s face it, men and women are different. We think differently, we act differently and we express ourselves differently. Most of us don’t mind the differences, in fact, they attracted us to you in the first place. But there are times when we wish there were certain things our husbands could at least understand a bit better. Here are seven of those things:
1. We may honestly not know how we’re feeling
It can be hard for husbands to keep up with our emotional mood swings, but it’s also hard for us! One minute we’re fine, and the next we are crying, mad, or laughing hysterically. The worst part is, sometimes we don’t even know what caused the sudden switch. Instead of getting frustrated or mad, just hold our hand and be there for us. Don’t take it personally: it is not you, it is us; we realize that. Now, if we could only figure out why we’re crying.
2. We don’t always want a solution
When we come to you with a problem or concern, we are not looking for a solution. Most the time we just want to vent and have you commiserate with us, not jump into problem solving mode. Of course we value your opinion, and we may want some advice, but wait for us to ask. And if we don’t ask, just listen. Solving the problem isn't what we need right now.
3. We need to just cuddle
Women like to cuddle. We like hugs, holding hands and resting our heads on your shoulder. We don’t have to have a huge romantic evening every night, just snuggling on the couch with a movie can be enough. Don’t forget the tender touches; a sweet kiss on the forehead means so much.
4. We love when you help us
Even though we try to do it all and seem to have everything under control, we won't complain if you decide to step in and help out....especially without asking. Do something unexpected like picking up (or making) dinner. Give her the night off from bedtime duty. Or instead of handling a task yourself, just help her out. Two hands are better than one and now you have time to bond while completing a task.
5. Being a good dad is extremely sexy
Seeing you interact with the kids is one of our favorite things. Seeing how you love them, hold them, play with them and talk to them makes our hearts swell. We love watching your interactions and seeing the love in our child’s eyes for you. There is just something extremely sexy about watching the man we love most in the world be changed (in a good way) by someone so small and precious.
6. We married you for your personality, not your salary
Career, salaries and success are important to most (if not all) men. We get that you feel your career defines you, but unless we’re a gold digger, we did not marry you for your bank account. We love you for your kindness, sense of humor and determination. We support you and we want you to be happy. That's all.
7. We aren’t vague on purpose
We are not trying to confuse you; it's just how we communicate. It's hard for us to be direct, because we feel that is too aggressive or rude. It's not that if you loved us more, you'd know what we mean; more like we don't realize you are confused. Women tend to pick up on every little look, body movement and tone of voice, reading into it more than it probably means and we think men do the same thing.
We know it's hard to figure out our mood swings and indirectness but we don’t mean to be confusing, it’s just who we are. Hopefully this article will give you some insight into what we go through and how much we love you for understanding!
Megan Shauri graduated with a bachelors in Anthropology and a masters in Psychology. She lives in Orange County, CA and is a mother of twins. Contact her at Meganshauri@gmail.com